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I just wonder why it seems even in our day and age that men who work outside the home have it so much easier than women.
My dh works the same number of hours as me (granted his is physical, construction and mine is sit down/office type) and yet despite him being the greatest guy in the world I still have so much more to do than him? Cooking, cleaning, shopping, budgeting, bathing kids, homework, even outdoor work, etc.
Sometimes I *really* wish we could switch places and I could be the guy.
Yup, that's pretty much the way it is. I also seem to recall having read somewhere that SAHMs actually get more help with housework than do WOHMs! As in the men in the families with a SAHM spend MORE hours helping than do the men in the families with a WOHM.
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Jonathan
Louisburg Cider Mill
October 2009
"Master, which is the greatest commandment in the law?
Jesus said until him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
This is the first and great commandment.
And, the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
On these two commandments have all the law and the prophets."
I empathize, and that's all I'll say. My dh doesn't see it the same way. To give him credit, he does a LOT - but there's a massive amount of stuff to do, and on the whole I still do more of it. I also feel that being self-employed and somewhat flexible in hours gives the impression that I am not a "real" WOHM. (Well, I do work IN the home - but feel much more like a WOHM - to me a WAHM is working with small children at home, kwim? that isn't my situation - everyone goes to school/work and I work at my office, which happens to be in my house.)
Since we live w/ another family, we have a rotating chore schedule and it's pretty even between all 4 of us. It's nice to split it all up between more people. Neither of us can imagine him not doing as much as me, hopefully more men will start feeling that way. He was also raised by a single mom, so I think that helps, she always made him do half the work too, it's just how it's done.
__________________ Rachel ~ WOHM, Married to lovely SAHD since 12/29/07, Mom to beautiful daughter Margali born 02/19/08
we're close to equal but he actually does more around the house. I didn't do anything to make him that way, he's just like that. He comes home from work and cleans for an hour or two. On his days off he wakes up and starts doing housework.
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When the people fear their government, there is tyranny; when the government fears the people, there is liberty.
Thomas Jefferson
We started as equals and then things morphed and they are morphing again.
I am taking on more of some tasks than I had for years (laundry and cooking) and he is having to take on more of some I had (budgeting and outside tasks).
I just wish I could stop working full-time and be home full-time again. (or work part-time) But we need the money....we just have never recovered from when my husband up and quit his exceptional paying job a few years ago. I guess I'm still mad at him in some ways for doing that to us which forced me to work full-time. The agreement when we had this special needs family was that I'd not have to work full-time.
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