I know exactly how you feel....

It made things too complicated and stressful for my dd (when she was little) to do "more advanced" work during school. We would just read like crazy at home. She needed to be social....but a lot of times I let that get away from me and wanted her to be doing so much more. Let us know how the meeting goes.
Forgot to add that in K they had her reading "Little Women"....not appropriate for her age level and loooooong and descriptive. I still laugh about that one!