I am going through a really rough patch with my 10 year old daughter the last week or so. Is it possible that her mood changes are from hormones already? I don't know what to do to get through to her. She is happy one moment then moody and angry the next. most of the time she won't tell me what is wrong and when she does tell me about stuff, the problem is so small that her reaction to it does not make sense to me. I am at a loss and I can't stand this tension between us.
This may sound terrible, but is she too young to be treated with herbal remedies to help mellow her out?
That is interesting to hear boys experience this too. I always assumed it was girls only. She does have a number of other things going on in her life that probably are stressing her but I just can't seem to get her to talk to me.
That is interesting to hear boys experience this too. I always assumed it was girls only. She does have a number of other things going on in her life that probably are stressing her but I just can't seem to get her to talk to me.
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Beth experiences this too and it can't be hormonal with her yet. She is not yet 9 and is going to be a very late bloomer. Perhaps it is seasonal with all the grasses and weeds blooming? Maybe it is fall getting here. I am wondering about something to honor the changing of the seasons, especially since the last year has been so bad for us. I have something big planned at Halloween on that note but maybe something smaller for teh equinox.
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is it maybe related to an allergy? maybe she is getting exposed to an unusually high amount of dyes or something?
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no dyes, I am pretty vigilant about avoiding dyes. i have been trying to give her a breakfast with higher protein content the last couple days and it seems to help.
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my 10 ds is the same way. He's getting mean too, just doing things to his siblings just to make them mad. Being defiante towards me and dh etc.. but then an hour later and he's a sweetie. It's driving me nuts!
It could be from hormones even at this age. or it could be diet. Being a detective is definitely in our job description! lol ((hugs))
I've wondered this about my nine year old, though, and I asked some moms about it and they said it could be hormones.
Also, though, my son has been "dr. jekyll/mr. hyde" lately sometimes, and someone recommended that I feed him more protein. With him I've wondered if it's blood sugar issues. [eta: my son is six, almost seven.]
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Originally Posted by Sunbeam
Kathy,
We are going through the same thing here with my 10 yr old son.
We are assuming it's hormones. One minute he'll be laughing and a joy to be around. The next minute he'll be in tears.
I'm flabbergasted.
If anyone knows of anything herbal to ease the mood swings, I would love to hear them.
ME TOO! OMG... My friend said today (in a pc way of course) that it was because I am harder on him than my dd... but I didn't think that was it and now I am hearing this. I really do think it is an age thing. Alex is 9. He is moody and he gets way more hyper than normal and then crashes... it is like a sugar high, but without the sugar.
I have just been trying to give him positive attention, and ignoring the out bursts unless he is hitting something. We increased his allowance recently to $5 a week if he does his chores. We also made a stipulation that he needs to keep his attitude in check. If he gets too out of line I say "That's 1" and then again later that day "that's 2" and then if it still does pull him out of it "that's 3" and he looses a $1 of his allowance. He can get it back if he does extra chores. Last week I had him rake the back yard and he earned his $1 back that he lost during the week. The week before he lost $3 and said he didn't care... lol... But the money thing makes me feel guilty in some respects, but in others he is really learning about the world, and I don't have to threaten him much. "That's 1" usually snaps him out of it.
Anyway... don't know what to say about the mood swings thing except that I feel your pain.
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It is hard too because I think kids around this age are so awesome - still young enough to be sweet and childlike, but with fully formed, independent thoughts, interests etc. but then at times the relationship can be so confrontational..... I am going to be extra vigilant about nutrition based on some stuff I read on healing arts last night, it seems like it will help.
We have been going thru this with our just-turned 8 year old dd. I was at wits end with her today as she was an emotional basketcase over the littlest things! Ugh...
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or it could be diet. Being a detective is definitely in our job description! lol ((hugs))
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