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how aware is your dh about alternative medicine?
or just general health practices?
dh and I had a little discussion tonight about his lack of information on this topic... and how I do all the research and I have brought forth all the information on the alternative health practices. I don't think we are even that alternative, I just avoid dr visits and abx and use herbs when we need them etc...
like the other day dh sent A out to play... he's recovering from a cold and has a nasty ear infection... yes it's nice out and I don't disagree that he could play outside for awhile. But he didn't have cotton in his ear or a hat on his head or anything... it never occured to him that the boy's ear might need to be covered.
He always asks me about what to do with the kids health issues (not that there is alot, just your run of the mill colds etc) and when something comes up that I may not be able to answer he has no thoughts on it...
I don't know maybe this turned into a bit of a vent lol. My dh is great, really he is I guess I'm just having a hard time gathering and storing all the information that I need and it would be nice if I could count on him to do some of the research you know?!
This use to be my responsiblity, dh was rarely involved, but since our 3rd child has struggled with yeast since birth, dh has been very involved. He actually took the baby off some supplements because he thought they were making the situation worse, he was right.
DH has become very learned about yeast, supplements and diets and he is better at adhering to all of it, more than I!!!
Exact same as you described. I'm in charge of medical issues, even his I guess it is a trade off. He is in charge of car issues
That's the way it is here, too. Though I must say, dh is learning. He will now ask for natural stuff before mainstream. He's learning! He is also getting less stressed about fevers in 2yo ds2- he used to think that you must give Tylenol constantly during a fever, and was freaked out that I wouldn't do that......this last bout of the flu/cold we all had, he saw first hand how letting the fever run it's course was a good thing Yay!
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we are both equal, i know more about certain things (like homeopathy) but he was raised by vegans in transcendental meditation centers (which originated from the maharishi and the maharishi is huge on homeopathy, diet, etc - as i am sure everyone knows lol), so he is knowledgeable as well - he knows more about food, with his upbringing and having gone to the culinary institute. so i guess, in short - we each bring something to the table and rarely go to the doctor. he was totally supportive in my using poultices for my breast cancer and doing the deep tissue and cellular detox (for the lymphnode cancer) before my surgeries.
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Dh is clueless. He takes terrible care of himself. I have to treat him like a child when *he* is sick.
He defers to me on all the medical decisions, though. That can be both a curse and a blessing...it's hard to bear all the responsibility but if it were up to him, he'd just take them in and get them antibiotics for everything.
He does strongly believe in homeopathy, craniosacral, etc - it has worked wonders on him. But he just doesn't know how to use them himself.
He is a great cook just have to get him to use more, uh, vegetables!
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We are completely on the same page with this. He knows way more about homeopathics and herbal remedies than I do. But I am edging ahead of him on nutritional healing. We are in total agreement on when to go to a DR (basically for trauma injuries only) we do not use pharmaceutical drugs and he knows almost as much about the dangers of vaccines as I do, only because I have spent way more time surfing the net for info. He was clued in on this stuff way before we met and had children.
My DH studied at the Omega Institute and has his own vibrational medicine company. He has written a book on vibrational healing with starlight and has several more books on vibrational healing waiting to be finished and published. He owns a publishing company too that publishes books on alternative health!
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thanks guys! Dh and I have talked about this and he's making more of an effort to research. He never argues with me, so that's not a problem, but I feel that there are so many things we're not aware of that I need a little help with research. He's currently looking into making colloidal silver
My dh knows *everything* when it comes to Western medicine, since he is a health care provider. I used to get lots of eyerolls and "looks" when I gave the kids homeopathic remedies and "protected" them from meds, but he has changed a lot. Now he will start look for the "super calm child" with vallerian when dd is doing her thing. LOL! In his defense, though, he is a very conservative provider when it comes to prescribing and suggesting meds. His biggest pet peeve in his profession is antibiotic overuse. He hardly ever prescribes them, even when patients ask for them. He will just say "I'm sorry, I don't think you need them." and that's that. He also doesn't feel that tylenol or motrin should be given for a fever under 102 degrees to give the body a chance to fight off whatever it's trying to fight. I'm usually the one sneaking them tylenol because I don't want them to be uncomfortable. I feel soooo crappy when I have fever, I just want them to feel better!
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DH's grandmother was one of the pioneers of healthy alternative medicine- so she influenced him a lot. He's more crunchy than I am, on that stuff. I used to laugh at some of the books he'd get for me.
I think I bring more to the table on food issues- more research, more effort, better nutrition, more options. I don't like it that his family believes sucking down herbs and vitamins, and skimping on actual, real live food is a good idea. I"m not sure that's from his grandmother- I think that's from his mother. His grandmother lived until she was ninety, and was vibrant and alive nearly the whole way. I think she might have put his mother onto the vitamin trackway, and that's probably keeping her healthier than she would be, left to her own devices.
I'm not sure insisting on shared research is necessarily the way to go- things jump out from the page if you are looking, but are sort of "oatmeal print" otherwise. I found one of my first notebooks, and I was shocked at how much effort I had to put in to get to a really minimal level of understanding.
I know my Dad and his wife are trying to get to a healthy place, and they fight about it a lot. She focuses on certain things, and he focuses on others, and they both think the other one is clueless, selfish or obtuse. But between the two of them, they have more of the picture.
I guess it is a trade off. He is in charge of car issues 
just have to get him to use more, uh, vegetables!
I feel soooo crappy when I have fever, I just want them to feel better!
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