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When you and your partner are not growing at same rate
Talking about this with someone recently....have you ever had a time in your life when you felt either you or your SO were growing spiritually at different rates? How do you deal with it when you are ready and willing to or in the process of making a spiritual leap and your SO is not? Not saying one is better than someone just different.
I'm not good at articulating thoughts today but maybe you can understand. It doesn't have to be spiritual growth but even personal growth. Anything you can add much appreciated.
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my thoughts are do your best to be patient and don't give up.
Doesn't help much I know, but sometimes when one is growing and the other is not Somebody feels like throwing in the towel!!!!
But hang in there. We have gone through this type of thing alot....and it is hard. But worth the patience I feel
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I agree with OrganicMama. I have been in this spot a lot of times. At least, Ithought I was. I think my husband may have been right with me, just not able to articulate it or express it. It is frustrating, especially when I want a good example to my boys, or support in my own stuff and I feel like I am not getting it. I just prayed and prayed for God to talk to him somehow. He did, but my husband is not consistent or patient. God may have to hit him over the head!
Sometimes when I think I'm growing faster than my spouse, I realize that I am actually backsliding and that it is really just a test of patience. God has really been showing me that He has His OWN timing lately.
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For me personally it is very hard because dh isn't growing spiritually at all. He is not a christian and I am, he does not understand why I do what I do and act how I act and I really wish he were right there with me. He does not discourage me but it would be so amazing to have him right there walking with me and knowing we were going to be together for eternity, I think that's the hardest thing to deal with. All I can do is Pray and wait for the Lord's timing.
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I see spiritual development as a family thing. When I am experiancing bigger spiritual stuff within myself I do not believe he also needs to be on exactly the same page. My growth will feed his as well as my childrens.
When exploring the world we need not always walk hand in hand. Sometimes I go first and check things out then later wait for him to join me. Other times he clears the way so that I can follow more easily.
You and your husband are not the same person, you have different strengths and come from different places. Just because you need something doesnt mean he does.
Think about birth, woman need something very different them men when it comes to birth. When I became pregnant with my son, I told my husband I wanted to catch the baby when it was born, it would be me or him. We put it there we would take it out. HIs first response was "ick thats gross". 9 months later there was no question about who would catch the baby no matter how the midwife felt about it so into my husbands hands my son was born. Now he can talk to other men and know without asking how involved they were in the birth. With our second on the way, no question my husband will catch. He got here I just had to wait a little.
When you and your partner are not growing at same rate
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