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mom2wildgirls · 06-21-2005, 04:52 PM

Ok lets start with the sewing related stuff. Yesterday I made my dd a tank top from a Gymboree tank she had in size 9. I traced the tank and it fit her great. Purple camo knit with really cute matching purple foe. Then I had some left and made my little one a pair of purple camo knit panites. So I am so proud I actually did make a pair of panties and got the foe correct ( thanks to Candy) and I made my own pattern kinda. I will sns when I get some batteries for the camera. Now to the wwyd, lol.

Dh got a call today saying he's orders had been changed back to the original date and we have to leave sooner for he has to be in Virg in a few weeks. He will be there for 5 weeks doing the traing for Special ops. I am not to happy about this choice he made to do this but I supported him anyways. So he will be spending 5 weeks getting the crap bet out of him and he is too tiny for it. I am very scared that something might happen and now I am a bundle of nerves. The wwyd part is this.

I dont' know what me and the kids are going to do know. We where sapose to move to Georgia and housing was sapose to be avaliable onve we got there since the waiting list is 3 months the lady said to file the paper for it on July 1 then we should have one in August once we got there. So I am not sure what is going to happen now. He called and asked me if I wanted to spend 5 weeks alone with the kids, two dogs and a cat in a hotel, ok No! So I said I could go to my mom's house in Michigan. The kids will be starting school in August. I would rather just go to Georgia and get the housing and stay there but now I need to wait tell tom and see what the housing lady says if I can do that. I told him to call tom and see if there would be housing in August for us so me and the kids could go.

I can't live in a hotel for 5 weeks and I don't want to go to my mom's house and have the kids start school and have to pull them out. I don't want to drive there myself and have all the animals and kids in my car. There would be no room for anything else. I just want to leave when he does and go to Georgia and get housing all of us but guess that isn't going to happen is it. I would post this in the military forum but no one every reply's and I know some mama's here are military. What can I do? Can I just go to Georgia and get housing? I know he would have to sign but could we fax it to him to sign? Not like I havn't lived without him before I just want it stress free kwim!

Oh and let's make it a even better day my so called friend as dh calls it came today 2 days late and boy I am pmsing! I need to go sew some more and eat some candy and drink my nasty diet coke with vanilla, lol.

Where's my can of worms? Thanks for the vent or whatever you would like to call it,lol.

kadidia · 06-21-2005, 05:15 PM

Oh no!!! I'm so sorry Angie :0(

Is there any sort of housing that they can find for you guys that's not a hotel? An apt or a rental house? Anything? Does the military have zero empathy? I guess they must? I mean...don't they consider the family? If not...military mamas should do some protesting...it just seems NOT RIGHT to me :0(

Can you guys afford to get housing on your own (non-military issued)? You were talking about zero interest loans that don't have to be repaid for a year...could you take out a loan like that to pay for your temporary housing?

If it were me, I would definitely go with your dh, since you all plan to move anyways. I would try to keep the animals boarded though...a hotel room could be too small for all the pets. I know you love your pets, but I know that I couldn't handle the small environment and stress of everything. I would try to keep the girls active in out of the hotel things to make life a little easier on you.

Also...if you did move to Michigan for a while instead...can you just skip school? I don't think the kids missing school will really matter that much. Better to keep them out for that short period of time and just let them start "fresh" when you all move to GA?

I don't know...either way is tough :0(

Post a pic of Samie in her tank!! I want to see

mom2wildgirls · 06-21-2005, 05:30 PM

Nope they really don't care. Like my dh say's if they wanted you to have a family they would have issued you one. I hope tom he can find out something. The lady he spoke to was very nice to him before. I don't want to live in the hotel for I would never bord my animals for 5 weeks. They are my other babies. They are so spolied and I would be afraid Serena would get depressed since she is 8 years old. I want to cry it is driving me batty. I am not one to wait and be patient, lol. I want to know everything now!

I am going to hope for the best I guess. If I where to go with him I would still be alone with everything. he would be in training and we won't be able to see him. So I am wondering what to do in Georgia with 2 kids 2 dogs and a cat. I am hoping we can go to Georgia all of us and get housing and then he can leave from there. I need to run that by him tonight. I just don't want to go live in my mom's basement even if it is the size of a apartment. She has a dog and 4 cats and my dogs would suffer and I worry about my cat running away. I couln't take that again ( last move here my cat we had for 8 years my oldest dd left the hotel door open and he ran away. I still cry for him sometimes). Urg why must this keep happing! I know military life deal with it. I don't want to today!

kadidia · 06-21-2005, 05:49 PM

Take turns walking the dogs? A lot?!?!? Just kidding ;0) Seriously...try posting on the market board for any mamas that will live close to you in GA. Try hooking up with them to do things with the girls. And do walk the pets a few times a day...maybe you could find a great park nearby to play with the dogs? Could you get your girls in some activities? Libraries often have tons of classes...research your closest local library in GA...call them...ask for times/sign-ups, etc. What about the YMCA? I'm sure classes there are probably a bit cheaper too...What about getting Samie involved with theatre? She would make a great actress :0)

You will have a vehicle...so you are lucky to be mobile!! I know it will be hard on you not to have your dh around, but you yourself have said that he hardly sees the girls *right now* anyways. Time keeps going...so eventually you guys will all be together.

Research as much as you can about your new location...things to do for the girls especially...parks/swimming areas/classes/fabric stores (heehee)...

lisa_dragon · 06-21-2005, 06:42 PM

Angie, if you can get a temporary power of attorney to last through the time it takes for him to finish his school, then you can be the one signing all the paperwork. Sorry your plans got changed, military is notorious for that. I dont know much about Army posts, but dont they have temporary place available? Air Force has TLF (temp lodging facility) and thats where we stayed when we moved down here to FL. Like a hotel but cheaper, and much more convenient to get all the paperwork done. (((hugs))) If it was me, I would just go on down, and get the kids started in the school.

mum2conor · 06-21-2005, 07:10 PM

nak

Lisa gave great advice.

what bas in ga? We were in ga for 3 years two assignments ago.

you definitely need a power of atty. I would go to ga and get settled

Seeking~Clarity · 06-21-2005, 08:21 PM

all sorts of arrangments. Anyway..we just lived in a hotel for 21/2 months as we drove across country...it really wasn't that bad. I have three kiddos..a dog..we travels with the 3 rats too!!

On days we didn't travel we stayed away from the hotel and did things..local stuff.

It really won't be as bad as you think. THe kids will love it!! Think of it as a adventure!! Also some bases have lodgeing on base. Navy always seem to have a lodge,so it was cheaper.

I would think this is the time to really get creative. I would rather go with DH than live temp. somwhere else and do the move myself. You can crate the cats in a dog crate..a folding one..and then let the cat out at night so that it won't get out. We traveled with cats at one point and that worked out really well. We used a small cake pan for a litter pan. Our dogs we also crated when we couldn't take them with use to a place or it was to hot to leave them in the car.

Good luck...you'll figure it all out. Housing lists are finicky...hopefully they will hear your plea,but don't count on it.

mom2wildgirls · 06-21-2005, 09:09 PM

Will even if I went with him we would not be seeing him at all so I would rather go to Georgia. The hotels on base don't allow animals so that would be a huge proublem with me. I won't lodge them some where else for I think it would be mean. I just hope tom some one can say hey you will have a place when we get there and then hubby can go on he's way. I do need to tell him we need a new Power of Atorney for my expired years ago. I have the website I should e-mail them myself and just look at some more stuff.

I will be in Hunter Army airfield in Georgia if anyone has info for there to help!