The Next Phase of WomanhoodAre you a curious what the next phase of life will be like, or are you already there? This forum will be for discussion of the Crone phase of life, filled with wisdom and new challenges. Come in and talk about your experiences and fears, your joys and hopes.
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Oklurkers, you can feel free to post or give an intro
its ok. We are really here to support each other in a place of life many of the mama's here are years from.
Having this here and us learning what we need will help them when they get here.
It is a beautiful place I feel so glad to have.
And the fact that life does change so much! Having each other makes me feel less crazy! lol
The older ladies were taught to keep it to themselves. But not us. lol
I am 40, hormonal, increase in facial hair, painful ovulation, dramatic increase in white hair, decrease in libdo, some joint pain, raging AFs, terrible PMS and did I say hormonal? I can't remember. My memory isn't what it was.
According to the females in my family, my Grandmother and my Mother both experienced dramatic hormonal fluctuations in their early 40's though didn't hit full menopause until their mid 50's. My Mother had HRT for about 5 years in her 40's and that seemed to fix her up. She had a hard time getting the help she needed though - Dr.s wrote her off as being "a menopausal female". When she started HRT we all felt like we got our mother back - she was very weird and emotional during those days.
I am worried I am following in her footsteps - as I have good right to be - we are so alike in so many ways, it is uncanny. I have spoken to my Dr a little bit about my concerns but he disregarded them as trivial.
I sent Kristena an email and she has recommended some books for me to read which I will pursue next week (thanks again!).
I have no problem embracing the changes but I am not willing to give up my sanity. I am hopeful that I can pursue natural remedies to avoid HRT.
That's my intro!
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I am so glad you intro'd because now you may feel like you can ask questions and participate.
I know you aren't the only one Marjen. Hope you did not feel like I called you out.
this is really tough. I was a monster in ways the first year of menopause and wanted to leave my husband.
Fortunately I had mama friends to share with and my friend Joy who spent time with me and made me feel happy even though my world was rocking.
I did not even realize what was happening.
I hope the ideas in Susuns books can help. I STILL refer to her work from time to time. She has really great ideas for alot of issues in the pause.
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Originally Posted by organicmama
this is really tough. I was a monster in ways the first year of menopause and wanted to leave my husband.
Fortunately I had mama friends to share with and my friend Joy who spent time with me and made me feel happy even though my world was rocking.
I did not even realize what was happening.
i wonder how much of this can be applied to surgical menopause...even in a woman with her ovaries? i am technically *not* in menopause hormonally...but this statement is describing my life. i've been on the verge of leaving for weeks...with some reason but not so much. and i'm not going to leave...i'm working through it...but i have placed my kids in PS and am going back to school myself and...and...and...i'm seeing so many faults in dh right now. i realize it's not very fair to him so i'm keeping it to myself, but that's not so good.
i'm feeling very isolated too. i don't really have anyone close to me here anymore. i can make a call any time day or night if i need it...but i can't just sit out back with a girlfriend and process any more. that's *really* hard.
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well come on over and we'll pop the cork and visit Seriously. tracey your reproductive hormones are not the same even when left intact.
I tried to keep my ovaries, but the radiation fried them. I woudl never have left them but research clearly showed they still help the entire body, but not as good.
So yes, I think yout body understands that babies are no longer in the picture so why the hell do you need a man? lol but we still do. Glad you are working though it Tracey. We are here if you need to talk
Location: True health flows from loving relationships, good food, time spent in nature, daily hugs, inner work, meaningful work and breathing thankfully for the richness of this life.-Kate Gilday
Seriously. tracey your reproductive hormones are not the same even when left intact.
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