The Next Phase of WomanhoodAre you a curious what the next phase of life will be like, or are you already there? This forum will be for discussion of the Crone phase of life, filled with wisdom and new challenges. Come in and talk about your experiences and fears, your joys and hopes.
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Did anyone feel really down right before her hyster? I don't know if it nervous exhaustion or just a repsonse to the constant pain.
I'll probably lie low for the next few days, focusing on spending time with my family. Deanna (DEandF) will update here at Amity's after the hysterectomy.
i was really **** down beforehand, i think part of it wasthe pain and anotehr part was probably that i was scared i would go thru everything and still be in pain. also knowing i would be out of commission for awhile was scary (even with 3 csections and 2 abdominal cancer surgeries, i was never in bed for more than 2-3 days afterwards).
my thoughts will be with you in the coming days. take as much time as you need mama this is a different journey for everyone. if you need anyone to talk to, i would be happy to send you my number (although i can be a major talker at times; i think i might have talked to rebeckaK for too long after hers, i babbled *forever* to her on her hospital room phone lol)
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i think part of it wasthe pain and anotehr part was probably that i was scared i would go thru everything and still be in pain.
Yeah that. And for some irrational reason I am terrified that they will find cancer, or that I will die during surgery. I've been sick and in pain for so long that it is hard to believe that they can just take out my uterus and end it all.
Thanks everyone...it really helps. I think after lunch I'll go ahead and have a good cry (I've been on the verge for weeks now).
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Yeah that. And for some irrational reason I am terrified that they will find cancer, or that I will die during surgery. I've been sick and in pain for so long that it is hard to believe that they can just take out my uterus and end it all.
Thanks everyone...it really helps. I think after lunch I'll go ahead and have a good cry (I've been on the verge for weeks now).
totally! you have to sign all that paperwork saying "in the event of my death...." yeah, doesn't really put you in a good mindset for the surgery. i am sending "no cancer" vibes! so no cancer is allowed!
i so didnt believe that i would have the surgery and the pain would be gone. it had only been 4 years that i was in pain, but it was a long long 4 years and the constant pain damaged my psyche more than anything. i was amazed, after the recovery period and how wonderful i felt (and still feel, sure i have arthritis and have that pain to deal with but it's nothing compaired to that **** endo and the horrible periods).
one more thing, i really really love when people are complaining about their periods, that it takes me a few minutes to remember what mine were like (and they were fracking horrible). there are the little joys and there are big joys with the surgery. and of course it's normal to have a mourning period. but overall, the lack of pain has changed my life 180 degrees; most of the time i was living minute to minute, just trying to get thru the pain and some days i was so ready to give up on life, just wanted to fade away because it was so painful. now i can actually plan ahead for things, i can get off the couch and enjoy life without having to make sure everything is a short trip or having to cancel plans altogether. i do not know if you pain has caused you some of the same issues but there is a definite difference in the quality of my life since the surgery and i so so *so* hope it can be the same for you!
i hope that my talking about my experience with my hysterectomy doesn't seem selfcentered. i mean i can only go by my experience and tell my experience but when i was going thru mine the 2 mamas, from here, that talked to me about their experiences helped me deal with mine so much better - i guess i am hoping that i can pass on at least 1/10th of the help that those sweet mamas passed onto me as they were one of the things i held onto while in one of the loneliest, scariest, and darkest periods of my life.
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I am so glad to listen to your story. I've been sick for a year with unexplained pain, fatigue, etc. and everyone kept saying it was my bladder. I'm always cold and I bruise easily, but it isn't anemia or my thyroid. Then there's the pain. It was mostly with intercourse, then when I resumed periods I had the killer cramps back. For a year now I thought I had bladder pain most of the time without verifiable infections, only finally the GYN said it was my uterus. For several months now the pain has been constant. I function, because I have to, but always in pain and I hate being negative and short-tempered.
I even had a tooth out; the pain was so bad that after 2 failed root canals I had it extracted even in the absence of visible infection. In the end I think it might have been TMJ brought on by jaw clenching and tooth grinding because of the uterine pain. Either that, or I have endo cells in my tooth socket.
I'm glad to hear that your hyster helped you, because I am so afraid that it won't help me.
Okay, I'm babbling today. I'm trying to get things ready, but I lose all energy by afternoon.
Tawnya, your memory lives on in your children.
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