Mamas with Teens and PreteensOh dear- the eye rolling, the attitude, the whines of 'OH MOM'... hormones? just a phase? being a teen is tough- being the mama of one is tougher...
The OP specifically asked the mother of teens what they have done.
And to the high horse comment. I don't think I'm the one on a high horse.
the subject line is teenage children and birth control. nowhere in the subject line does it ask for only mamas of teens to open it.
and i still say, when you post about a hot topic, you have to expect differing opinions.
and i am not on a high horse. if you want me to get on my high horse, ask me about something that i'm passionate about. i was just trying to throw a few facts out. and i get a little pesky when people insinuate that all of my values will change when my children reach some magic age.
i apologize for the high horse comment. i got from your post that what some of us that aren't mothering teens is irrelevant and useless.
Kas - Why do you so strongly believe that the other mothers here do not know their children as well as you know yours? Why do you always try to position yourself as the one who "gets it", while considering everyone else here to be out of touch and unrealistic? And why are other people's expectations for their children considered close minded and even stupid? The assumption that those of us with younger children can't have a valid response to questions regarding older kids is insane.
i never said any of that, but will admit to thinking it at times. mostly when a parent proclaims strong-will-never-back-down-from-my-moral-beliefs, they're sure to be heartbroken by their biologically pre-programmed kids.
I am not the mother of an older teen, but I like the approach of Tommy Nelson and his Spiritual perspective. It is how things were given to me when I was a teen/young adult. I chose purity until marriage (gasp) and his influence was a huge reason why. I think that teens (even those who my choose to be sexually active) should read his stuff. It's pretty amazing. His books and research will be how I will deal with sex and my older teen when the time is here. You can google his name and get more information. It's a tough place to be, I am sure. I dread it.
i never said any of that, but will admit to thinking it at times. mostly when a parent proclaims strong-will-never-back-down-from-my-moral-beliefs, they're sure to be heartbroken by their biologically pre-programmed kids.
Honestly...I don't think you have to say it because your thoughts come through in your words anyway.
It really becomes apparent that feel you know our kids better then we do. You don't. You know your kids. You know what society sometimes says about kids. You don't know the kids here.
Maybe if they were hanging around with some bad influences things could change but I suspect many of these kids won't because they will have the gentle guidance from their parents to make wise decisions. Sure some will stray from good decisions despite the efforts of their parents but I don't believe it's the vast majority.
Try worrying about your kids and let other parents worry about their own.
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There is a HUGE difference between being a teenager (even recently) and parenting one. Apples and oranges people.
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And as for latex allergy, most people know well before their teen years that they have a latex allergy or sensitivity. Latex is everywhere and in lots of everyday products. It's hidden everywhere, ask me how I know, lol. I doubt anyone who is making a conscious decision to be sexually active would be unaware of an allergy.
not true. latex allergies occur after repeated exposure to latex. and even if you've had a mild reaction once, you could develop a more serious reaction later, even as serious as anaphylaxis.
And as a mom of littles here too...I still think that as an adult who once WAS a teen...that my opinions and statements are valid.
Just because my littles aren't teens - doesn't mean that I don't know any...all of my siblings are teens...16,17,18,and 19 to be specific...and they have been raised with the values that Jen and I share in common. And they are all still virgins...that is the path that they have chosen so far. Not saying that they will all stay that way until marriage...but it does say SOMETHING for that difference in parenting styles.
Now as for myself - I wasn't a virgin last 15 as I got that choice taken from me...and that started a serious spiral of bad decisions...but having been raised by the same values that my parents have instilled in my siblings...and also having been taught about what to do if I chose to be active...I did know how to protect myself as well as anyone can really be protected while not practicing abstainance....because condoms DON'T protect you from everything...and these kids should get the information to know that...to make an informed choice. Not just from a basket full of easy permission with no information.
i better stop feeding all these teenage friends too, then. ya never know when someone MIGHT choke. don't wanna let them swim in the backyard, either. ya never know when someone MIGHT drown. geez.
paranoid much?
why don't we just call the police/cps/and a public defender right now, lock me away & make me do time?
get a clue. someone PLEASE give two for ones, as they're needed!
And as far as judging anyone...Jen is the least judgemental mama I think I have seen on here...she does state her "opinions"....but judging...I haven't seen her do that...
And Kas...you have stated on more than one occasion that those of us without teens should basicaclly sit down and shut up because - *gasp* - we don't have any teens of our own so how could we POSSIBLY know anything...about parenting...and that sounds more judgemental to me...to ASS-UME that just because our kids hit puberty that our morals and values and deep rooted belief systems will all just fly out the window...
yes, i said quit inferring that my children will be remotely like yours. how does that make your kids bad? my children won't be remotely like yours. they are from two different homes, with two different value systems entirely. that doesn't make yours good or bad, neither does it make my children good or bad -- it just makes them different.
to the high horse comment. I don't think I'm the one on a high horse.
jen...I am feelin' ya mama...
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