Mamas with Teens and PreteensOh dear- the eye rolling, the attitude, the whines of 'OH MOM'... hormones? just a phase? being a teen is tough- being the mama of one is tougher...
Hello- I am preparing a kit for my daughters Menarche (lol notice red font in spirit).
So far I have: a few cloth pads, a rose flower hair wreath, a (really tiny) pair of diamond earrings, a tiny fairy tea set, a hair brush.
I would really like to make a special box up for her- not so much in "things" but in symbols- like the fairy tea set to remind her to keep believing as a child.
I would like suggestions on some things to include- spam is welcome.
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Sounds like a beautiful idea!
When I first started my period I really enjoyed long hot showers... they always made me feel better when bloated or crampy. You may want to include a couple bars of her favorite sent soap, or some bath oils... I bet that would be really wonderful those first few months.
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That is so sweet!
My DD's menarche passed without much fanfare-I was completely taken off guard, thought I'd have an extra year.
Good for you being proactive!!!
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I am preparing too and have a ritual planned. I am planning a "party" with many older "wiser" women being there and some of her friend too if she wishes. I plan to make her a bracelet during the party with each woman giving her a bead and a hand written note of "knowledge". Afterwards, DH will take them to have their ears pierced. What about some natural deoderant or "body spray". Perhaps new panties. A diary. Maybe a cute pair of "little girl" pjs.
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A beautiful box would be a great touch- and it can serve as a wrap for all the things too.
I told Veronika she could either have a "red party" with her friends, mothers, and female relatives- or maybe we could go to San Fransisco for a weekend and spend time together- we would invite her grandmothers and aunt.
I warned her that I would not be willing to leave the baby overnite until he is at least 4 years old- that he would be coming with us if she started before that time.
I really want this to be a celebration - not a "now you are in for a life of inconvience"
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I really want this to be a celebration - not a "now you are in for a life of inconvience"
I think this is very important. I have found since embracing my natural ebbs and flows, they do not bother me like they have in the past. Even if I get a cramp, etc. I just flow with it. It is Mother Nature's way of providing us with children. I want my girls to have the same view but from day 1. I want so much to be there when it happens but since I work full-time and they are in school full-time I don't think that is going to be the case. My mom was at work when I started.
I had never thought of anything like this, it is a totally cool idea. I got really sick for 2 days before my blessing. I was really embarrased to tell my mom. I hope that i will be aboe to do something like this for my daughter.
Luckily I have at least 8 years to go ( heck she isn't even born yet!!!)
Thanks for the idea and insperation though, even though it was meant for someone else.
Jodi
I always told Raynbow she could get her ears pierced when she got her period. Unknowingly it was one of the smartest things I ever did. The day she got it, she came and said "Well Mom I guess I get to get my ears pierced today" No awkwardness just excitement. Then we went and she got her ears pierced and I got one done. she spent that whole next week obsessing about her ears, she barely gave having her period a second thought. still now 8 months later it is so not a big deal, just a part of life, and she has never said "this is a pain in the a**" Or anything negative about it.
Good for you mama for being proactive, I think the way we approach it has a truly lasting effect on how they feel about it.
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there is a book out there specifically filled with ideas for celebrating this important rite of passage....I can't remember the name offhand. Anyone know what I'm talking about?
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The Red Tent would be a good one for an older girl. Great book... But not for young teens...
Here is something I found looking for it:
Circle of Stones----by Judith Duwark
How might it have been different for you
if on your first menstrual day
Your mother had given you a bouquet
of flowers
and taken you to lunch
And then the two of you had gone to meet
your father at the jeweler--
Where your ears were pierced,
And your father bought you your
first pair of earrings.
And then you went with a few of your
friends and your mother's friends
to get your first lip coloring. And then you
went for the very first time to the
Women's Lodge to learn the wisdom
of women.
How might your life be different?
Here is another book I found called: Moon Days : Creative Writing About Menstruation It is endorced by Susan Weed, who is my favorite herbal healing writer. She is wonderful! Here is a link.
Love Val
Edit... One more thought... a great book on stuff like this is "Are you there God? It's me Margret." By Judy Blume... not a Goddess book (and no I am not Christan) but it really captures well the things girls are thinking about at that age.
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