Good job mama.
Ever wonder how it can be so hard? I never thought this part of parenting would be SO flippin hard. I hate being the "bad guy". That book love and logic really has taken that somewhat off my hands though. The basic jist of it is.. if they learn the lesson when they are young, it costs them a lot less. Like.. this time, she just missed out on a luncheon. But when she's older, it could mean her job, her college education/grades (in some classes I took not long ago, if you missed more than three classes, you failed.. use to be in college they didn't care if you showed or not.. now, because of scholorships and such, they keep track of it like a hawk) or worse. But man does it still suck to step back and let them teach themselves lessons when something SO simple could keep it from happening. If they'd just LISTEN to all the awsome wisdom we have to share *LOL*. Anyway.. the book basically says to treat them more like an adult. You wouldn't tsk tsk your neigbor if she missed her hair appointment.. you'd just say "I'm so sorry! That totally bites!"
Do the same with your kids and show true compasion.. that way you are on "thier side" and they can't lay any of the blame on you. If you show real empathy, she'll fully understand that YOU didn't keep her from going.. she did.. and you won't even have to say it. It's kinda cool actually.
Wanna hear something funny? I use the love and logic book's widom with my husband ALL the time.. and it SO works. Now, things get done without my nagging him all the time
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