My first bit of advice is that it's a long journey, just take it one step at a time, and look at living life deliberately overall...I feel like in the past year I've made these huge strides, but that the six years before that were all building up to this - I had my first garden this summer, and it was a small one.
Laundry. I am going to pass on the wise words of naturalmama/Aileen - I love her idea and it's worked great for me. Everyone has their own laundry hamper, so each person's laundry gets washed in its own load when the hamper is full. This was quite revolutionary for me - I used to sort whites/darks and wash all our clothes together and I spent a lot more time sorting and folding. I would also recommend doing one load each evening, if you can, rather than waiting for the weekends and doing massive numbers of washloads. Maybe put it in as you start dinner, reboot to the dryer after dinner, fold and put away in the evenings? Or whatever works for you. We only have four or five loads a week, so I tend to do it over two days - two loads a day - plus another odd load here or there when towels are icky - which is easy compared to what you have in terms of volume!
So I guess I'm wondering if there is a way to cut down each person's amount of clothes to where they generate a load of laundry a week? I can't really imagine wearing a whole lot more clothes than that. One way we cut down is by getting rid of lots of clothes. When all your clothes don't exceed a washer full by much, you tend to wash one load and have it dried and put away pretty quickly.
My final thought is, how old are your girls? Old enough to be doing their own laundry?

Definitely hand at least part of this job off to them - it will help you so much and they should be pitching in.
Good luck, and I am tired so I hope this doesn't come off sounding like a "laundry lecture" or anything! I just want to help...I felt much the same way a couple of years ago. It's taken me a while to get to where the laundry isn't an issue at all - but I finally have! I never thought I would say that. But it was the suggestions and advice of mamas here that helped me, and I'm happy to pass them on.
