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beanandpumpkin · 11-29-2005, 10:32 PM

I've had several friends/acquaintances/online people I know say "Guess what? I'm pregnant!" over the past few months.

And every time, I'm able to genuinely smile and say "hey, that's great! Congratulations!" without even the tiniest twinge of envy.

DH says we're done. Now I think we're done too. I do wish I'd had that homebirth I desperately wanted, but I think I'm even over that.

Looking forward to the next "phase"...one that in the next year or so won't include nursing or diapers.

Anyone else recently come to this point?

LatteLover · 11-29-2005, 10:36 PM

Um, I am really done too. I am just so done. It is so nice to feel done too I have to say. After my first horrid pg I thought I was done but I never felt it. And I went through that hell again but now, I feel done. So happy, and so done.

Morgansma · 12-04-2005, 06:10 PM

I'm glad you've found peace.

Barb · 12-04-2005, 07:37 PM

I absolutely feel nothing but joy for my pregnant friends. Mostly cuz I know I'll be babysitting their newborns. LOL

My sister is pregnant and honestly my first thought was 'better you then me sis' lol

I really do feel that our family is complete. All the souls who belong in this home are here. I'm not jealous of pregnant women in the least tho truly happy for them.

and I'll have two 2 month old baby girls in my care starting in january so I'll certainly get my fill of loving on and holding a babe

anyway, congrats to you and welcome to this phase of your life!

TraceyH · 12-04-2005, 08:01 PM

Congrats on being at peace with your decision. I sort-of look forward to the day when I am ready to move on to the next phase.

amyorama · 03-11-2006, 11:24 AM

That's great that you're moving on!

DH works alot of hours, and we are together as a family maybe 2 times a month. I don't feel like I am at the end of my rope with four kids, but I do feel like if I added another child into the mix, I don't know if I could homeschool without any outside help. Oh yeah, even less housework would get done.

I am trying to find peace with this. I am 34 and 37. DH thinks we could try again in a few years. I don't know about that.

I wish we would have had more childen, but sometimes life doesn't work out the way we want it to.

Electra375 · 05-05-2006, 06:52 PM

I'm in that stage where I'd be content if we were to not have anymore. DH wants more! I'm just now thinking well, okay, 1 more maybe, but then I'm done.

What is so weird is that getting pregnant never scared me before, now I'm fearful. A friend lost her baby at 27 wks pregnant last May, statistically he should have had a better chance. It hit me hard, really hard at how fragile life is.

I see women with babes and I'm not feeling the "love". I have no desire to reach out and hold them, but I've never been into other peoples kids anyway -- I'm just not that type. I see pregnant woman and think, man you look like you're about to bust BTDT...

So, I'd consider myself done if it weren't for dh wanting another. I came to that conclusion in the last 12 months. My youngest are 23 months apart and very active, it's exhausting at times -- I'm tired.

I keep wondering what it will be like when they are all in school... That must mean I'm content in being done.

movaly1 · 07-20-2006, 10:15 AM

I think I am done too. My little one is only 3 months old (I also have a ds who is 2) but I feel like two is enough for us. Dh feels the same way (at least right now). I think two is the magic number for us.

Valerie