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irinam · 01-26-2007, 06:09 PM

Just an interesting article that I find to be resonating with me

Not posting specificaly for discussion (just to share), but if it ensues, that's fine too

http://joanneaz_2.tripod.com/positiv...nter/id26.html

countrygal · 01-26-2007, 06:28 PM

I love this! Thank you for sharing it. It is my philosophy also- we do not have time outs and never had, but we have had quiet time near me in order to get their thoughts together and be removed from the situation. Not a punishment, but a help in getting focused.

tisme · 01-26-2007, 07:12 PM

This is very similar to what I did when DS was younger. I didnt like the idea of him getting in trouble for having a tantrum because he didnt know how to express what he was feeling. Instead of leaving him alone to feel even more scared of his emotions, we'd have a "time-in" on mommy's lap.

Christi · 01-26-2007, 08:21 PM

*nods*

elfmaker · 01-27-2007, 01:34 AM

love it!!!!!! i am not a fan of 'time out'

we do a 'quiet time' in our home. quiet time can be requested by anyone who feels out of sorts and needs to regroup-- or feeling overwhlemed or just getting grumpy. we can have quiet time by ourselves or with others but we don't talk....we snuggle or look at a book or just gently roll on the floor.

usually that is all that is needed to refocus and get back to enteracting with others. we almost always have a quiet time for everyone in the family when we have been out and about all day. we come in the house and everyone heads to their room for quiet time-- usually only about 10-15 minutes.

and when mama is feeling short fused i just annouce that mama needs quiet time and ask the boys to play quietly while i put my head down for a few minutes. in this way i hope to model that is okay to get grumpy and not appropraite to be crummy to others-- but instead take yourself for a quiet tiem.

Luna