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¨bloominglikewinter¨ · 02-18-2006, 12:42 AM

my dd is a sweet little girl who is very easy to handle around here when i am with her, but when daddy comes home and tries to tell her "no" or give her a bath at bath time, she FREAKS OUT!! she wells up - so upset and heartbroken - when daddy says "no". and i have no idea why bath times with daddy upset her so much - i ask her and she says, "daddy hurt my feelings"...but i dont see how! he warns her a few mins before bath time that it is coming soon, jsut like i do, and she knows that when her bedtime tv show is over ("franklin"), that it is bed time...i just dont get it! and daddy is getting frustrated and doesn't know what to do with her. he sometimes leaves her in her room till she calms down, but that just makes her more angry. help!

MotherMoon · 03-01-2006, 04:08 PM

I agree, leaving the room when she is upset is not good. It can make a child feel that you only love them if they are happy, that being upset is wrong. I don't really have any other advice. My girls like only doing certain things with DH. That is because he won't do many things, like baths, storytime, etc. So, I guess my advice is keep him involved.

waterlily · 03-09-2006, 04:31 PM

I just wanted to say that for my sensitive 3 year old, as well as my 1.5 year old, any disapproval from daddy is taken very hard. They accept it from me and don't bat an eyelash but it's for some reason so important to them that they have daddy's approval and I expect it is because he isn't around all day like me. I would just suggest to your dh that their time together be as positive as possible. It may be a stage and maybe not but it sounds like your girl is telling you what she needs from her dad. Does that help at all?