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TeresaLock · 12-04-2005, 09:43 PM

Every since about the age of 3, he'll be 7 in February, he's been a different child. He seems angry often, sometimes acts very hyper, has this I don't care attitude etc. He told me today it's b/c his sister was born and that made him mean

I've often wondered if there was something to give him, I don't know what, that would help w/ the hyperactivity I see sometimes. I don't think he has anything like ADHD or anything and I'm not sure what food it could be. HE's never had any food allergies or anything. I've tried showing extra love etc and I just don't know....... I first thought it was a stage but it's gone on way too long for that. I don't know how to respond some days

I'd appreciate any suggestions.
Thanks

isaacsmama · 12-04-2005, 09:49 PM

Sounds just like my little bro...he was definitely different after my littlest sis was born...have no idea why. I guess I just wanted to say its not an abnormal thing. He has not ever been on meds nor does he have ADHD...same anger and hyper activity...very interesting! I sure hope someone has some insight for you! Id be interested too!

Hugs!

~Meeshi~ · 12-04-2005, 09:52 PM

On the heels of the other thread, I would look into diet first of all. Write down what he eats in a day and see if he's getting lots of good stuff and very little over-processed or "flavored" foods.
Second, I would look into any TV shows or movies he may be watching that show similar behaiviour. Seems like a lot of seemingly innocent programs slip in bad attitudes. Gosh, even in Brother Bear, the mooses were saying "You shut up!" "No, you shut up!" or something similar.

TeresaLock · 12-04-2005, 09:54 PM

Thanks! I feel so sad sometimes b/c before his sister was born and also our nephew moved in next door in the same month which he was happy about but my nephew isn't a great influence he was such a different kid. We took him everywhere, always got things said to us about his great behavior etc. I always thought he'd adjust great, he was so excited about having a brother or sister, loved her so much when she was born that it just makes me sad. It seems the older they are getting the more it seems to happen with him. We put him into karate thinking he'd get to let it out so to speak there and if anything he seems to do more to her. I just spoke to his Sensai about it this week b/c he doesn't want Sensai to know about it, but I just feel that he worries more about Sensai knowing he's doing karate to his sister than what we say. I don't know..... I hope someone has some ideas for me:-)

TeresaLock · 12-04-2005, 09:56 PM

Thanks Meeshi, I haven't actually written down what he eats like you suggested. He's a great eater, he'll anything you put in front of him, tons of things other kids wouldn't touch. I try to watch the shows, but like you said sometimes shows you wouldn't think of having anything do. We homeschool and I try when he watches tv to have it be movies, I get tons of things about what we are studying. We do national geographics and stuff. I'll try what you suggested.

2guysand1gal4me · 12-04-2005, 11:16 PM

First off (((HUGS)))
My dd is alot like that. She has always been a different more difficult child, but when I was pregnant with ds#1 she really became more difficult and harder to manage. She often says now that she really wishes she never had brothers. She is often really angry when around them. I just told dh today, I really wish I knew how to make her love them (her brothers) more. She can be really sweet when she wants, but most of the time it seems like they are more of a pain to her than anything.
I try to make sure that I spend some one on one time with her and take only her with me sometime to run errands and such. I really praise her when she is nice to them and helps out.
I do agree about TV show. I notice a big difference when she doesn't watch tv. I think a lot of the shows these days do not advocate being nice to siblings. Siblings are more of a pain in the butt in the shows these days.
I am sorry I really don't have any answers, I too will be watching this thread.