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Goonboy · 10-05-2003, 01:13 AM

I haven't been around much, thanks for making me feel welcome and loved. I've missed you too. HOw about another Portland get together? -Laura

~Denise~ · 10-05-2003, 01:33 AM

Yes! Wouldn't a holiday crafty get together for kids be fun!? Making something crafty for the kids, or WITH the kids....or, ummm, having the kids make them!!!!! (o; Ornaments, decorations, etc. Hmmmm, we need to consider this!!!!! (o:

Mamax4 · 10-05-2003, 10:23 AM

Angelbaby. Sounds like you have a good handle on it. I have a challenging child, and it is very tiring. But in a weird way, also very rewarding. These are the children that teach us things we need to know.

I also didn't mean to write as if you would leave your child with a caregiver who might be rough. I know Amity Mamas are pretty thoughtful folks. I was just thinking that sometimes a particular caregiver might have a style that would not mesh with certain kids, yk? Sounds as if you and your mom are on the same page, and that is very helpful.

I was wondering if your father might have ever hit the dog on the nose... or anything like that? YK, little kids take these things as lessons. And our impulsive ones would grab onto such a lesson and run with it. DOes he get a lot of physical activity,- running around, climbing etc. Maybe he has a lot of energy and needs big spaces to move fast, safely. A tired kid can be a happy kid sometimes. lol

Thinking of you!

Laurie

Mom2Steen · 10-05-2003, 12:35 PM

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Originally posted by jessica_momof5
it really sounds to me like part of your sons agression is that he needs more stimulation. they get bored and act out in some situations.

I hope you get help through these books.

Thanks Jessica. I think you really hit the nail on the head. DS is pretty smart and he constantly wants to be learning and doing. Even during "free play" at home he talks non-stop about what he is doing and wants us to be interacting with him. He has to show us everything and tell us what he is doing. At school there is one teacher, one aide and one parent helper for 12 2 and 3 yr olds. DS just doesn't get the stimulation or adult interaction that I suppose he is accustomed to.

I've put him on the waiting list to be bumped up to the 3 and 4 yr old class even though he would be the youngest 3 yr old (only by a month or so and we know some of the other children already from playgroup and LLL). Most of the activities in the 2-3 yr old class just are not a challenge at all for him. They only have peg puzzles available and he can do 24 piece jigsaw puzzles on his own.

The art activities are very simple and he loves to do involved crafts at home.

So I definitely think boredom is an issue with his behavior problems at school. I'm not really looking to do "homeschool" pre-school because the whole point of his going to pre-school was so I could have a very small break twice a week. The 2.5 hours twice a week have made a big difference in my sanity.

I'm still at a loss for how to deal with his constant talk about fighting and killing. He was even using his playsilks to make up a fighting "game" this week. Ugh!

Thanks to everyone for the great book suggestions. Our library has a few of them and I'm trying to acquire the others as quickly as possible. I even think that our local LLL library has a few of them.