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TenToesToTickle · 05-06-2003, 11:40 PM

I put soft classical music on, take a bath, go outside by myself, read, take Bach's Rescue Remedy. I got so bad when I was pregnant, my CNM prescribed me Ambien because I wasn't sleeping from pain and anxiety. That worked wonders beyond words! lol

I'm sorry, wish I was closer to help you out! Is there anyone that can watch the kids so you can have some time to yourself?

Hugs!

Barb · 05-06-2003, 11:41 PM

1. stop babysitting that little boy at night... even tho you need the extra cash. tell his dad that you need a break till next week maybe.

2. tori can walk. she really can.

3. jake and erin can help wash/dry the dishes and/or the house can be messy. really.

4. they don't need a bath every single night. faces washed, hands washed, hair and teeth brushed. it'll be ok for one night.
give yourself a rest.

5. get them to school tomorrow and come over here with tori. We'll get on the phone and deal with the insurance issue. I promise, when i get thru with them you'll have a midwife appt

(or we'll be on the news....)

6. i give great neck rubs. So after we make all the calls we need to and run tori ragged with zoey (so she'll sleep later), i'll give you a neck rub.

so... will see you morrow?

ElDucko · 05-06-2003, 11:44 PM

If I'm on top of my game, then I talk like a pirate. I know, now you all KNOW I'm crazy instead of just wondering

but really, I do. Like "AR! I be mommy dread beard! Ar! Ahoy mates!" Cracks both me and the kids up and whatever they're doing that's making me insane is stopped while they laugh at me. Then when I'm done talking that way I can distract them with another activity.
If I'm madder or less in control, roaring. Not at them perse, but like a dragon or lion or...yk? "Roooooaaaaaaaaarr! I'm a dragon!" and get the kids to make other animal noises which aslo difuses the situation.

I am ashamed to say that sometimes I am not able to stop myself before I yell, but I always say I'm sorry and we talk about it, and I am getting better.

I think really anything you can do that is funny and at the same time loud or very quiet or somehow changes the tempo/mood of the house is great. I am alone for great quantities of time with my kids, and so I need all I can get yk? I have no car so all we ever go is in the yard. The backyard, nice and fenced, with the crazy lady that's renting the house we're sharing a yard with *shudders* There's really no-where we can walk to other than campus (a slightly dangerous crossing, only because the visiblity is bad for the drivers) or a park (kinda far for the kids and a super busy street to cross, so we only go w/ dh).

hth mama, here's some (((hugs))) for ya!
jess

MamaDulce · 05-07-2003, 03:24 AM

You live close to Barb? It sounds like she has a plan. I'd do everything she said. And I do believe her that she'll deal with the insurance problem. So, go to her house tomorrow. Bet you feel better by the end of the day.

danica · 05-07-2003, 10:57 AM

yeah, i think i will head over there. the insurance problem is one of the big stressers right now. it's such a silly problem...the deal is the hmo is telling me my dh won't be entered into the master system for 6 to 8 weeks. this is after waiting 4 weeks to get signed up. THEN...i am supposed to be able to go to a pcp and THEN i can get a referall to an ob.

hello? that's like 32 weeks pg at that point. i know there are some mamas here that handle their own prenatal health care. i'm not one of them. also, my babies are sharing a placenta so i NEED a sonogram to make sure we don't have disconcordant growth.

so i explain my predicament to the hmo and the rep says to go to dh's hr for proof of insurance...but guess what? hr won't talk to me because i don't work there! i can't call dh but he did happen to call last night and i explained he needed to do something. he is supposed to call me back today with an update.

blah! so it's not really that bad, it's just one more thing to deal with that i don't have the energy/patience for.

thank you everyone for all the sympathy though

. it really did help a lot!!!