I think my SO is "sold" on the idea of fostering and adoption. We have had the adoption conversation a few times before. I left it at that though. I'm not one to push & pushing him doesn't get you anywhere anyway. The other night he brought home the flyer for our counties agency with the contact info & says, "maybe we should consider going to the meeting" I guess that means he's intersted enough to want more information. Wow. I better start doing some real work on the subject rather than just thinking & talking about it!
Anyway, I needed to share. I made the mistake of sharing with my mother who was full of nothing but "worries" and "concerns", which didn't make me feel good in the slightest. I know you gals won't be that way though
Thanks for listening
Chole
__________________ 18th century Mama to a exciting 8yr old, SO to a graphic novel guy
Anything specific you want to know? You should contact your local DHS office. You'll probably need about 30 hours of training and then you'll do a homestudy. I'm happy for you!
our nezt steps are to go to the informational meeting, set up to take the Co. required classes & make the house ready for the homestudy (I've already got the list of requirements). We also have to have physicals for both me & J & I will have to find out what, if any, requirements they have in regards to my DD (homeschool, vax, physical etc).
Homeschooling is not an issue in our state, you just can't homeschool foster kids. I can't remember (we've done 3 different homestudies now) but I think they jsut required a letter from our ped. saying W. was free from communicable diseases.
Don't worry about the house inspection, it's nothing. No peeking under beds and fridges IME.
We are currently doing a state adoption homestudy (we've previously done a state foster study and a private adoption study) and I am right there with ya on the scary and exciting!
we do have to do a few things like make sure to have smoke detectors in the required spots, make sure the fire extenguisher is up to date. YK, misc stuff that we really should do anyway. OK maybe I'm just useing the HE as an excuse to make SO do a few extra things
we do have to do a few things like make sure to have smoke detectors in the required spots, make sure the fire extenguisher is up to date. YK, misc stuff that we really should do anyway. OK maybe I'm just useing the HE as an excuse to make SO do a few extra things
Good to know we're not alone.
Chole
Oh yes, we have those too! We locked up meds in a toolbox (already in a locked cabinet), had to add smoke detectors, etc. There was only one! You know, come to think of it, this last lady never even asked about safety issues! Wow, that's scary. But we were ready b/c we've done them before. Oh and with fostering we had to have a fire drill planned and mapped out and posted and emergency numbers posted which is a great idea anyway. Good luck! I wish you the best.
we always have to have the emergency info in view, first aid kit stocked, water temp checked, cleaning supplies locked away,emergency drill logs current,etc...
Good luck! I waited quite a while for my husband to consider adoption, and it was such a wonderful day when he finally agreed.
The home inspection part was easy - I cleaned for days, and she barely glanced at anything. I had forgotten a sink full of dirty mop water, too, and she did see that part. (I was so embarrassed!) We had to have a carbon monoxide detector and show proof of rabies vaccines for our pets for the adoption homestudy. We also had to show that we have enough bedrooms for each child to have their own room.
DH and I are ttc #1. We had a mc in January, and are now ttc again. In addition to having our own children biologically, I would also like to adopt abandoned children from Russia and other countries where there are more abandoned babies than people willing to adopt them. DH doesn't like the idea of adopting, saying that he's afraid he would love his "own," chldren more, and worries about potential problems with adopted children. I feel very strongly about adopting children and giving tham the opportunity to be raised in a loving household that they wouldn't otherwise have. DH knows I am interested in it, but does not know how strongly I feel about it. (I'm afraid if I told him how strongly I felt about it, it would scare him further from the idea, and make him defensive.) How did you talk to your SO about it? How did you convince him? How can I help him to overcome his worries and concerns?
I guess that means he's intersted enough to want more information. Wow. I better start doing some real work on the subject rather than just thinking & talking about it!
You know, come to think of it, this last lady never even asked about safety issues! Wow, that's scary. But we were ready b/c we've done them before. Oh and with fostering we had to have a fire drill planned and mapped out and posted and emergency numbers posted which is a great idea anyway. Good luck! I wish you the best.
Monie 
We're considering fostering too.....
How did you sell him the idea?
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