EFT Tapping CircleThis is a circle of support for those who join. All interested in EFT are eligible. You do not need to be in advanced in EFT to participate. If you want to learn more about EFT see the stickies in the main forum. We will take turns tapping for a member's issues for a three day cycle. This is an exciting opportunity to further support our friends and families here energetically and spiritually. It is also an opportunity for you to get additional support for yourself.
One thing I have been working on for myself and my family is the healing of mother-daughter wounds. I've posted about this before, but I find that I react differently to my daughter than to my sons. (Of course each child is different, but this is something more.) I have also been feeling strongly to connect to the Divine Feminine in some way.
So, what I have been thinking about is this. Can I tap for myself, my daughter and her daughter, my mother and her mother -- while keeping an intention for healing of mother-daughter relationships for all women. (Christiann Northrup's Mother Daughter Wisdom talks about all sorts of aspects of this.) I guess I know that I can tap and have any intention I want, but am wondering if there is anything to this in EFT "teachings."
There are plenty of other big issues, this is just one that is on my mind.
I say 'yes' definitely.
I believe you can tap with multiple people in mind, most especially family members...I know that Deborah has good info on generational stuff/family relationships in her Family Constellations teachings.
You can incorporate anything from your other teachings into your EFT tapping routine IMO. People do it all the time with GREAT success. Gary Craig has always encouraged people to stretch the boundaries. That is what he did and came up with EFT.
Take notice of what comes up for you while you tap on this issue. Names, faces, places, incidents...things that will make your tapping more specific...
and to heal your own mother daughter issues, I would again, begin with your own issues...in relationship to your daughters. each one indvidually. Especially anythng to do with birth stories, pregnancies, birth order...and then of course stuff that happened between you all once they arrived
I will say, that I find for most everyone, the most important place to start is with your own parents(and/or caregivers...)..and your incidents with them that bother you. That is what will begin to shift your energy and then bring positive energy to every relationship in your life, because your response to life will change. What is it in your relationsips with your girls that reminds you of someone, in your past? Do you remember similar feelings in relationship to your mother? Grandmother? Sister? etc...
We certainly can tap for you Natalia! It would be so cool for all of us to tap on our mother daughter relationships. I hope Deborah posts and gives us suggestions in the Family Constellations language. it is really cool stuff.
And totally OT, but I would love to post a bigger picture of myself, but can't seem to manage it. I've tried to follow the directions in posts with similar problems to now avail. So, if this is something easy to do, can someone PM me a "how to?"
Today, I was tapping after yelling at S and remembered my parents telling me (don't remember the actual incidents) how I would always cry when my mother sang to me. She is tone-deaf, so the fact that I cried when she sang amused my father. Apparently, they thought it was so funny that they used it as a party-trick -- my mother would sing, and I would cry. This must have been when I was very young, an infant. Anyway, I cried and cried tapping on this. Doesn't seem like such a big deal.
When I read this, it seems like a HuGE deal. I feel this deep wound ---
how unbelievable sad that a misconnection between you and your mother was a parlor trick. So I understand your crying about this.
I love the idea of working you mother-daughter relationships. Agreeing with Linda, starting with your own (as mother and daughter) is the place to start and as we heal our own relationships, we heal it for others.
One way to start this is to stand, close your eyes, and imagine yourself facing your mother and seeing what comes up. How do you feel? Tap on that and see what shifts. Continue until you are clear. Then bring in your mothers' mother. Have her stand behind your mother -- what do you notice? Tap on that.
I'll try to write more about Family Constellations later but one starting question is what secrets, excluded persons, traumas, abortions, suicides, crimes or other early deaths are there in your family history?
What family stories are there?
That gives you material to work with.
(You can go back 7 generations for this.)
I'm offline tomorrow but will be back this weekend.
Hugs,
Deb.
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Thanks Linda and Deborah. I will move my continued work on this to the private forum so that we can get back to the Tapping Circle work here.
Editting to say: what I originally meant when I posted (before I made it an all about me thread ) was that if no one asks for personal tapping, perhaps the circle can tap on big-picture issues.
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