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Linda · 05-08-2008, 04:23 PM

OK.
in NLP they teach you how to use a resource person in your stories. You rewrite your story the way you would have liked it to happen and put a resource person in the story to help make you feel safe and protected. Here is a story I did last fall(spring here~lol!) that worked out so GREAT!

This is an exerpt from a letter I wrote my teacher, Rehana.

The day I was born...my mom was moving house (not doing the grunt work, but there and supervising). She started BLEEDING.a lot of blood(she wrapped towels between her legs to contain it) (and eventually went to the hospital to have me under anesthesia by forceps...but those are other aspects...)

I kept tapping on the idea that My mom was scared, which was making baby Linda scared...After all major bleeding while pregnant in labor is life threatening. I got it form an 8 down to a 2/10 scale. But I wasn't getting it to budge. So I did an 'as if' frame for my movie technique. I made the situation safe for mom and babe so they did not have to be afraid anymore.

"My mom got into the White Camero with Dad and Grandpa Joe. Just as they were about to drive away to the hospital, Grown up Linda(ME!!!) came running over in her beautiful flowing purple and gold dress and climbed into the back with her pregnant mother Lisa. She started rubbing Lisa's belly and talking to her baby self in her mother's tummy...She said;"I know you and mom are sooo scared. It is very scary when there is so much blood. You have no idea what is going to happen. You might be feeling a little bit woozy..unsure, afraid....But I want to prove to you that all is well. I want you to know, that this is you, Linda ALL GROWN UP. We did it, we made it. Here I am. I am alive, and healthy and well...which is proof to you that you are going to be OK. I won't leave you, I am here with you!!! Even if you get scared again later on in the hospital, you will hear me telling you..here I and it all turns out OK!!!"

When I finished tapping on this new story I SHOT UP OUT OF MY CHAIR and I was screaming and clapping and jumping up and down throughout the house...Talk about a shift. My goodness. I probably look 10 years younger right now..lol!

What an INCREDIBLE way to deal with the threat and fear. It is so empowering. It is a totally flat zero. There is no fear with it at all anymore.

I feel like I can conquer he world right now. Wow.