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Originally Posted by organicmama
I should never had put this out there....thanks
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Hey Sweet Mama,
I read your post and have thought about it off and on, about what I might be able to say that would be helpful. I haven't faced anything like what you are facing. And it seemed to trivialize what you are facing to tell you how it helped me to make a poster.
I do think that after a support meeting it would be great to tap on any fears that came up. Like, "Even though John has relapsed and it seems like everyone does eventually, I completely love and accept myself." "Even though I'm afraid I'll relapse, I completely love and accept myself."
EFT is Great for hitting fears head on and getting rid of them. Not just fears of course, also worries, nagging thoughts, anger.
Facing it all head on is what I've been doing lately and I've been referring to it as embracing the negative. Sometimes that includes cusswords in my set-up phrase.
If with regards to something I have the thought, "I just HATE when ____" then that's my set-up phrase. "Even though I just HATE it when ____" It's been working great. I love being able to contemplate something that was bothering me and just feel peace. And it has made for a more peaceful mama with my children since I'm not carrying around all this upset, likely to burst at any moment.
Years ago I heard this in a sermon of all things. Plan for the worst so you can believe for the best. The idea is that by planning for the worst (you buy house insurance) you then have peace with which to move forward in a positive manner. Using EFT on the bad stuff, the ick stuff, gives us the peace to move forward. Our bodies, minds, and emotions all benefit.
A recent concrete example of EFT helping me. To help out a friend I did an outline for a poster, thinking the idea might be used but someone else would be asked to actually do the art. I ended up being asked to finish it with the possibility of it going on the exhibit guides, I would get paid if they used it (I needed the money), and I was very nervous because I'd never done anything like this before and had a deadline. Then a couple days later I find out the artist who submitted a sketch for the actual poster refused to make changes, and my poster, if it was good enough (after all, I'd never done this before and they'd never seen my work) would be the actual poster posted up and down the peninsula. Talk about nervous. My hand would shake as I tried to work on it.
So I tapped on every negative thought I could think of. "Even though -
I'm scared it'll be crap
I'm afraid I'll embarrass myself
it won't be good enough and they'll give it back
I don't have the paper or tools to do this right
- until I felt mostly peaceful. Yeah, I never got completely peaceful.
And many days later I finished it one day early as I'd planned and turned it over, with confidence, and feeling peaceful that it might be used, it might not. (Though I did want it used, and wanted to be paid, especially after the hours I'd put into it.) Intermediate result: It's going on the exhibit guide books, I got paid, and it might also end up being the poster for this year's fair, but I won't know until after the board members view it.
With EFT I got to the calm spot from which I could work. I love EFT. I'm using it to cut down trees (that's where you work through a list of things - memories, thoughts, anything that comes up - that in any way bothers you) and I've just recently started applying it to things I want to manifest. Before I'd tap on the positive side, but now, I've stepped over to the dark side, baby.
Are you familiar with the buffet analogy? There's all this food to choose from and you pick what you want, you don't rant and rave about the food in the buffet that you don't like. You don't go on and on about the scrambled eggs if you don't like them, you simple get the roast beef you love, etc.
Well, sometimes in life we are living with the scrambled egg and friggin' pissed about it. I've been doing the focus on what I want stuff, and am not speaking against it, but saying that for me I've found I need to deal with my emotions around those buffet items I don't want. Especially when I'm living with them.
And, I'm using EFT in another way too. (Thanks to a great EFT article.) Sometimes we need to ask ourselves "Why haven't I (or have I) manifested this? In what way does it protect me? What am I gaining by not having it?" (Or by having the opposite.) I'm slowly going through the items on my Treasure Map that I still want in my life that haven't manifested and wow have I gotten some interesting answers. I'm embarrassed to say that in one case the answer was, "If I have it, I'll have to let go of my anger at _____" Whoa. I hadn't even known that was there.
Okay, so I got very wordy. In short, your post required a thoughtful response, a heartfelt sharing, and until that poster was done all I had time for was reading and quicky responses. But I have been thinking about you and what I might share that could be of help.
With love,
Rhea
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