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Oh,it'syou · 01-01-2008, 11:24 AM

My 30-year old husband has just been diagnosed with a hernia. No protrusion yet, but the docs gave us to believe it would just be a matter of time. I know this is because he hates his job - well, not so much the job, but the people he works with every day. The job includes a great deal of heavy lifting, so what better way to avoid it than not being able to lift, right? Especially coming right on the heels of a recent arm injury at work, and two weeks of the flu. I'm feeling rather blocked on a proper affirmation for him, as I'm angry and subjective myself. Something like "Although I'm resentful and angry at those schmucks in management, and my body has responded by blowing a gasket, I'm really a great guy and things will work out" doesn't seem very helpful!

Linda · 01-02-2008, 04:22 PM

Welcome!

It is so hard to see the ones we love in pain/suffering~emotionally and physically, isn't it? I am sorry your husband is working in a job where he does not like the people.

That said, the place to start so you can best serve/help/assist others when you clear yourself first. That is, it is best to clear your own emotions regarding your husbands situation...THEN you are clear and present and can effectively surrogate tap for him. You *can* be clear and present for him. This is true for your kids as well. If you WANT To tap for your kids, make sure you clear your own stuff out first, then you can tap for them.
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SO, give me an idea about your feelings in this situation...how do YOU feel l about his job, his injuries? What is going on for YOU right now? Then use those words to clear *your* negative stuff.

If you say and affirmation and it does not ring true...a tail ender comes up, then it gives you more info to tap on.

Here is a great article with the title"but I need to have my husband use EFT" I LOVE it. I don't want to copy and paste as it is LOONG...
Post again with your own concerns and we will see what we can come up with.
I Need to Have My Husband Use EFT

I can tell you that when I clear my own baggage my kids have shifted with me, over and over. it has been amazing. IT has been the biggest lesson for me.

looking forward to haring form you again.

Oh,it'syou · 01-03-2008, 09:59 AM

Linda - Thanks for the link to the article, and for telling me what I know to be true. I want my husband's pain to be healed, but I also need to be clear so I can help him. I know what I have to do, really. But sometimes it seems like there's a part of me that doesn't WANT to be clear. Like these people are wrong, treating my love badly and I've earned the right to be hostile and irritated toward them; they deserve it. There's error thought all OVER the place

That said, I'm going to heal myself first. Thanks again for calling me out.

- Lou

Linda · 01-03-2008, 02:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Oh,it'syou

Linda - Thanks for the link to the article, and for telling me what I know to be true. I want my husband's pain to be healed, but I also need to be clear so I can help him. I know what I have to do, really. But sometimes it seems like there's a part of me that doesn't WANT to be clear. Like these people are wrong, treating my love badly and I've earned the right to be hostile and irritated toward them; they deserve it. There's error thought all OVER the place

That said, I'm going to heal myself first. Thanks again for calling me out.

- Lou

Hi Lou

Well, there is nothing right or wrong about anything you have felt said~it just 'is'. It is information!
You can tap on first..the fact that you don't want to tap,
"I don't want to tap...I've earned the right to my anger...I don't want to get rid of my anger. If I hold onto my anger it makes them accountable.." "Part of me wants to be mad...FOREVER at those people at my husbands work...I have earned the right to be ANGRY."

and see what comes up for you. What images, feelings, pictures...events, people, places...etc.
You might have something come up from your past that this reminds you of