Jody, you have something great to work with.
THe very COOL thing about EFT is you don't need to anything but neutralize your response to that situation. You cannot control what other people think say or do, but you can change the writing on your OWN walls. So, the next time a situation comes up that would normally trigger your response, it won't anymore if you have neutralized it with EFT.
From what little you told me...
Set the situation, describe the circumstance people involved and how you FELT. DOn't make it too long, keep it to the point. Also if you had multiple feelings when your step grandmother said that thing to you..then take one emotiona at a time and deal with it if you can manage it. Also you will also have to deal with the fact that your mother said NOTHING. I am sure that was just as devastating for you. So there are a few aspects already that you need to cover.
Find the specific incident. Your movie with the beginning middle and end.
1) tell the story in first person 'I'
2) tell the story in black and white and third person 'she, he,'etc. do this until it feels comfortable in third person.
3) tell in B&W third person BACKWARDS. truly backwards.
4) tell the story as a technicolor cartoon inserting cartoon characters(you know, Shrek, Fiona, Cinderella, Bambi, Pokemon, whichever ones strike your fancy) for the people. (the players are still there...kind of like a cartoon/real person morph) Still in third person.
5) tell the story with in technicolor, with cartoon characters backwards.Third person.
6) tell the story in technicolor with cartoon characters with very upbeat music overlaying the whole story. THird person.
For the music, the other person can hum it...or you can just have it recorded and play it. You can have it on your IPOD/MP3 or on a Cd etc.In our Workshop we used Benny Hill theme song and Can Can music. You can download music form the internet. Also, cartoon themes would work great for kids. Anything UPBEAT...no words.
Telling the story in third person dissociates the story teller from it..by switching from 'I' to 'she'. Then they further dissociate them selves from it by adding cartoon characters and music overlay. Now if the incident is horrific, like abuse or a bomb blast etc...you must use your judgement...technicolor and cartoon character would most likely not be appropriate. However, you can do the B&W movie over and over in third person forward and backward. You are making new associations with the memory. Totally jives with my Neurobiology background. You are causing a pattern interrupt.
This method is so very cool! I watched people just shift quickly using this technique. It really is not all that time intensive to do...especially since it is so effective.
LMK if you need more input. I am HAPPY TO help.
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