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LaVieBoheme · 04-06-2005, 10:52 PM

This whole almost 16 months, he must have just been pretending! I had NO idea!!

Really! This is what my doctor told me! You know that doctors do know absolutely everything about every individual persons bodies right??

I shouldn't have gone back.. but I guess I was concerned. I shouldn't be, I should trust my instincts.. which told me there was nothing wrong..

back up..

9 months Chris had a well baby checkup. He was 21 lbs.

12 months, Chris had his year checkup. He was 20lbs and some oz. He lost 9oz from his 9 month appt. In those three months, he had started solids and had started to walk- and climb- a lot. I HAD to make an appt to come back in 3 months to check on his weight, since it's not good to lose weight (unless you are me.

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15 months, we go back. Chris has gained 6 oz. Still not good.. but at least he's gaining. (doctors exact words) Are you still breastfeeding? You know he's not really drinking the milk anymore.

No doctor.. I didn't know that! Wow.. was that published somewhere? Hmph. All those times, that I wake up in the middle of the night.. and I feed him, and I can hear him swallowing, and I can feel the let down STILL, you mean it's all in my head?? Wow. Who wudda thunk.

So now I have to go back in 3 more months to make sure he's still gaining weight. Yes I know he's gaining weight slowly. I just don't see HOW. he nurses like he's a newborn still. He eats everything under the sun. Maybe there IS something wrong. He is healthy and happy though.. is just as active as my 5 year old- running around the yard, climbing up the slide, trying to climb up the ladder to the bunk beds. *lol*

Ugh. Anyhow.

A_Furry_Thing · 04-06-2005, 10:55 PM

LOL so what is he doing with it if he isn't drinking it?
My Jane is a tiny one too. BUt she is never still. She is going full speed all day long. Burns up all the calories she eats. And she eats all day too.
I wonder why some Drs just don't see that in some kids.
Mindi

tinyterror'sma · 04-06-2005, 11:00 PM

Our ped. expressed some concern at 9 mo. visit b/c Kelby hadn't gained much weight that time & she's only 3 % on charts. Concern b/c babies don't gain very much after activity kicks in. Asked me to offer meat at every meal if I'm not opposed & to bf at least 5 times a day. Kelby was VERY active early on.

Went in at 10 months for ear check - she'd gained 10 oz.

At 1 yr visit she'd gained 1.5 since 9 mo.

Anyway, DR happy as she's gaining small amounts but staying on her curve.

So I'd ask for another DR in the practice if you have other options.

Pridemom · 04-06-2005, 11:02 PM

Crimony! He must be spitting it back out when you're not looking.

All of my kids lost some weight when they started walking. Your doc would have freaked at my girls. They were born weighing between 9 and 10 lbs each and at a year only weighed 18lbs. They must not have been drinking all the breastmilk I produced for them.

Sheesh. What a crackpot. I'm so glad our family doc wasn't like that.
I'm glad you're not falling for his line.

LaVieBoheme · 04-06-2005, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Pridemom

Crimony! He must be spitting it back out when you're not looking.

All of my kids lost some weight when they started walking. Your doc would have freaked at my girls. They were born weighing between 9 and 10 lbs each and at a year only weighed 18lbs. They must not have been drinking all the breastmilk I produced for them.

Sheesh. What a crackpot. I'm so glad our family doc wasn't like that.
I'm glad you're not falling for his line.

Yeah Chris was 10lbs at birth.. I don't think 20lbs at 1year is that tiny anyhow???? I mean it's not like my 5 year old who was 20lbs at 4mths or anything!

but still within normal weight!

Thank you for making me feel better.

Pridemom · 04-06-2005, 11:12 PM

Well, if it makes you feel any better, my girls are all between 40-60%tiles now and they're 3, 5 and 7. How big were you and dh as kids? Both of us were small and our doc took that into consideration.

What's funny is my eldest was 20lbs at 4 mos, too! If he hadn't been so big I would have questioned the quality of my bmilk the the girls. My girls were just a lot more active than he was.

Sunflower_Momma · 04-07-2005, 12:36 AM

Your babe sounds a bit on the same track as my dd (except that she was 16 lbs at 12 months). But, her ped rocks! And, I'm continually reminded of that every time I read a post like this.

We, as first time parents were a bit worried, and he said, "naahh, she's the perfect example of the good breastmilk does."

mom2kbeth · 04-07-2005, 12:57 AM

We had the ssame issue at our 1 year check up. Ds had been in the 95% for weight from birth to 6 mo. At 6 mo, he started crawling and never stopped moving after that. He walked at 8 months. And started eating solids around them as well (he still nurses like a fiend!). During the 6 month period between 6 mo and a year, he went from the 95% to the 25%. He lost a few ounces and just hasn't gained anything. The dr was saying he was a bit worried and told me to start giving him things like carnation instant breakfast (we try to eat as organically and naturally as possible - I was not giving ds that, lol!) to make him gain more weight. We had to schedule a weight check for a month later. I called the morning of the check and cancelled it. I know there is nothing wrong with him/ He eats well, nurses a ton - he is just a little monkey who is never still! But I suppose peds have to worry - it's their job, lol!

momace9904 · 04-07-2005, 12:59 AM

This is just my opinion, but I would be lookin for a new Dr. What a moron, of course they lose weight when they become more active. And what the #### does he think the baby is doing with the milk...saving it up in his cheek for a rainy day. He sounds healthy to me, and you as the mom probably have a better idea of whether he is thriving. I would be skippin that moron appt. Of course...i'm not a big Ped fan, but that's another whole thread all together.

Candace · 04-07-2005, 01:01 AM

What a quack!

My friend had a doc get all concerned about her dd not gaining (or maybe she even lost weight.) The little one had started walking and DUH! was slimming down, plus, she's just not a biant baby, YK? I had to laugh thinking about it just the other day because her dd actually has a bit of pudge around the wrists and is obviously more than fine.

MamaNurse · 04-07-2005, 01:17 AM

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And what the #### does he think the baby is doing with the milk...saving it up in his cheek for a rainy day.

snort. I actually laughed when I read this. Thank you. That was very funny and right on.

Sounds like that ped is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay off base. clueless.

Medical school students are NOT educated much at all about breastfeeding. It shows in many cases. As a nurse, I can tell you of many stories of docs sabotoging (not necessarily on purpose) breastfeeding relationships.

In order to support breastfeeding, they need to specifically seek out knowledge, whether by experience (themselves or their wives) or by learning.

We've had the same struggles and worries w/our youngest. He was just under 20# at 1 yr and they were all worried about his weight.

momace9904 · 04-07-2005, 01:32 AM

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snort. I actually laughed when I read this. Thank you. That was very funny and right on.

Hey it was my pleasure...that dude is a maroon!!!

pinkmommy · 04-07-2005, 03:01 AM

This is why we skipped well baby check-ups. I knew my baby was growing because he outgrew his clothes and I weighed him from time to time. It is so normal for babies to slow down in growth when they start moving around. Recently, we returned to the first family doctor we had when we first moved here. We left the practice mostly because our insurance doesn't accept him as a PPO so we have to pay out of pocket, but IMO it is worth it because he is such a great family doctor. I have never found a pediatrician who lines up with where we are insofar as health care, but perhaps you can keep looking for family doctors - word of mouth from people who are close to your ideals in this area might be a good way to start.

momace9904 · 04-07-2005, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkmommy

This is why we skipped well baby check-ups. I knew my baby was growing because he outgrew his clothes and I weighed him from time to time. It is so normal for babies to slow down in growth when they start moving around. Recently, we returned to the first family doctor we had when we first moved here. We left the practice mostly because our insurance doesn't accept him as a PPO so we have to pay out of pocket, but IMO it is worth it because he is such a great family doctor. I have never found a pediatrician who lines up with where we are insofar as health care, but perhaps you can keep looking for family doctors - word of mouth from people who are close to your ideals in this area might be a good way to start.

I could have written this!

amanda823s · 04-07-2005, 11:28 AM

That's so stupid, I'm sorry you had to go through it! My little guy had a time that he didn't gain much weight, and our ped. told me to *think* about not breastfeeding him at night anymore. There's a lot they don't learn in medical school I guess. You just tell little Chris to hold still and have a donut or two, then he'll get nice and plump for the doctor!