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hastings · 03-04-2005, 05:49 PM

I just can't believe this, I mean DD turned 1 YESTERDAY!!!!!! My mother brought the subject up when we discussing tomorrow's birthday party this morning. "You know, you've given her a solid year. No one does that. And I don't think she's getting enough solids"
I just want to pound my head up against a wall.

emilytoys · 03-04-2005, 05:54 PM

they tend to quiet down around 18 mos, lol.

My mom started in on the weaning comments at 9 mos. and stayed on strong through about a year and a half.

Then she actually READ a little of the literature I have lying around and she generally shut up.

I have to be VERY careful not to ***** about nursing (you know, vents about twiddling or teeth) in front of her though, or it all starts again.

Oh, and Hasting's mom -- my 29 month old is nursing!

familymama · 03-04-2005, 05:55 PM

I'm in a bad mood today. i am pissed off for you. If it were me (lol-I am the biggests woose so all the next is a lie written from my bad mood)
I would start pestering them about breathing....haven't they been doing it long enough?

Oh and this is RebeckaK writing as familymama because I am at her house, I am nursing, and I am too lazy to log in.

_Gentle_Spirit_ · 03-04-2005, 06:41 PM

I hear it all the time. Elizabeth will turn 4 y/o this June & I am told she is TOO old to nurse.

I let it go in one ear & out the other.
*Hugs* You do what is best for you and your child.

mom2wildgirls · 03-04-2005, 06:54 PM

Hugs. My dh thinks they should be weaned at 6 months. The next one will be weaned when it wants to be

elfmaker · 03-04-2005, 07:03 PM

maybe she's worried because your dd is so thin and malnurished looking

LOL LOL LOL

hastings · 03-04-2005, 07:06 PM

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Originally posted by elfmaker
maybe she's worried because your dd is so thin and malnurished looking LOL LOL LOL

well, there is that

Linda · 03-04-2005, 07:17 PM

Who is no one?-show her spiritfreedoms thread on her breastfeeding sig pic-lol!

'Enough solids'? for weight gain...if I remember you call Lorelai 'lead butt'-hehe.

And there wil be many other parenting issues that many people your mom included will feel free to give you advice

Or the following could be used in retaliation...
"Thanks, Mom...can we talk about what you ate today?
How's about your sex life mom...can I advise you on that?
I was thinking I should really look at your finances and see if I could fix them for you...you are getting to old to do it for yourself. "

I don't say any of these comments in a mean way-I just want to point out that we all make our choices and we all get to live our own lives. We all get to parent our own children. I am sure she is well meaning...and her peer group and upbringing just did not do things your way

Anyhow-you can educate her and then tell her if she brings it up again, "Thanks mom, I know what your opinion is on this subject, I don't need to hear it again"
{{{{{{{{BIG HUG}}}}}}}}

Linda · 03-04-2005, 07:20 PM

BTW-
Happy Birthday little Lorelai!!!

linda

branwyn · 03-04-2005, 07:28 PM

pfft tell her some people would give anything to be able to bf.

sillygoose · 03-04-2005, 08:38 PM

Happy Birthday, Lorelei! Hastings, my 17 month is still nursing. She is still a baby. The immunological benefits are concentrated in the second year. I tell people although you may see a toddler on my lap nursing, when I look down I see the eyes of the baby I nursed since birth. I nursed my 1st until 17 months and my second until 2 years 4 months. This is my last baby, she'll nurse until Kindergarten!!! LOL I find it helps when I spout off a few statistics. It also helps to say (directed at a general "you") "yeah, I know some people might have a problem with it, but that's their problem really, not mine." I can't be confrontational to people unless they are to me. Sorry you are dealing with this Hastings.

MomMom · 03-05-2005, 12:35 AM

Lorelei! {{{{{Hugs}}}} Hastings

My family learned too keep their mouth shut after a while! LOL! Now they are so supportive! They even stick up for me!

The coolest was my Dad who hated nursing and was the reason my Mom weaned me at 1mo., never to nurse again. He saw me nurse my dd until she was 3. He thinks it is great now! My experience with my family is they just had to see it. It became normal to them. I had ds's 15mo. well today and the Ped. asked if he was drinking milk yet. I said no. They said "as long as he is still nursing he doesn't need milk"

! Even Dr.'s are coming around! My parents thought this was awsome too! Hang in there mama!

punkin · 03-05-2005, 08:28 AM

I understand mama! I get the same things here. Taylor is now 22 mos. and even dh would prefer that she was weaned, but he doesnt say much and i dont discuss it w/ him. I figure its not his choice, its mine and taylors. I just let comments go in one ear and out the other.

birthdance · 03-05-2005, 10:01 AM

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Originally posted by punkin

I figure its not his choice, its mine and taylors.

Amen!! Perfectly stated...its no one's choice but the mom and baby's.

Hang in there, mama. Sweetly and firmly stand your ground.

Oh, and

Happy Birthday to Ms. Lorelei!!

Sharon · 03-05-2005, 10:58 AM

I guess you hit that one year "magic" mark when instantly your milk is no longer what's best. Seems it's great for the first 364 days of life, then BAM it goes bad at exactly one year. I think I read that in a medical journal somewhere...