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Vanity Fair · 03-05-2005, 12:08 PM

I think a lot of us go through this, Hastings, and I'm sorry, I wish that everyone would just get off our backs, lol. But...what seemed to help me was to be careful not to discuss nursing or food or feeding of my baby with people that I knew were going to offer "advice". It works pretty well actually.

thea · 03-05-2005, 01:40 PM

My MIL started making weaning comments around Louisa's 2nd birthday. Then she got pertussis and would have been dehydrated and malnourished if not for breastmilk, so MIL started saying, "Thank God she's still nursing!" Louisa's healthy again and still nursing like crazy.

rwikene · 03-05-2005, 03:16 PM

when Gracie was born I had told everyone very firmly that I had intended to bf until she was at *least* 2yo...so didn't get many comments from family about it, but strangers

or extended family!

They all have opinions, some more vocal than others. Now Gracie is over 3yo and nobody says anything! DH's family (the ones who made the most comments) is used to it by now, and they know "its not up for discussion"....although about 6mo ago his grampa asked me when I was going to put Gracie on a bottle

um, yeah, lets get her addicted to a bottle at 2 1/2 years old, good idea

Of course, DH's gramma promply said "shut up John! you don't know what you are talking about" LOL.

anyway, I can see why your mom is so worried...I mean Lorelei is so thin and all, your milk must not be enough for her...can't you see the poor child is starving?

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MaineMaMa · 03-05-2005, 07:55 PM

Does it really matter what anyone else has to say? I am the only one in my family to breastfeed. My cousins all bottle fed . I got the- How can you do that?! And the looks. I could care less. At about 1 1/2 yrs I got the- your STILL doing that?! My son did wean himself around 22 months. He is healthy and happy. That is all that matters. Now I am getting ready for baby #2 and I will be breastfeeding again -for as long as we want too!

georgiadoula · 03-05-2005, 08:13 PM

if she is eating or drinking anything except breastmilk she is weaning... so there. tell your mom you have been weaning her since she started solids... tell her you are doing it gradually...