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Ok,my 14mth old is not sleeping any longer than 3hrs at a time.(if I am lucky!!)
He is up to nurse or just use me as a human soother.We co sleep because that has given me a little more zzzzzzz but not much.I have heard that breastfeeding babies take longer to sleep through the night.I dont really buy it.He is my 4th and I have never suffered for sleep like this before.Im desperate for some advice.He is a short napper,so no catching up in th day.
amber
I do believe breastfed, cosleeping babies take longer to sleep through the night. Here's my theory: when they are right next to us and stir a bit and cry a bit or whine a bit, we pop a boob in their mouths and so they come to rely on that.
Babies that sleep in their own beds we don't hear as easily and when they fuss a bit, we don't hear it and they either have to cry louder or they put themselves back to sleep.
Then, babies that sleep in their own beds but are breastfed, when they do get a bit louder we go to them and get them back to sleep with a boob, rather than a more cumbersom route of cuddling, rocking, getting up to make a bottle, etc.
That said, I was going to post a similar post because my 15 month old still wakes to nurse 3x/night. It is a path I have chosen to take KNOWING that he'd probably sleep through the night if I would night wean him. It sucks, I know and I"m with you on it. I have though that if he has not night weaned himself by 18 months that I might do so then. But, I still have three months to think about it.
It is rough and I am NOT judging anyone for chosing to night wean at this point, but I'm not ready to do so myself - yet.
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Lauren January 2009
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Thank you soo much for the reply.
I do feel im stuck between a rock and a hard place.
My dh is supportive of nursing however if I even mention that Im tired he just says well you did it too yourself.Im not about to let my baby cry it out nor do I have the energy to rock him to sleep for 25 minuites a night.x3.Also he is such a busy boy during the day that he really gets a GOOD nurse during the night.Plus..He LOVES the BOOB!!! He would never take a soother or a bottle(i know I know...Around 8mths I was so tired I could throw up,Desperate times)
I try to remind myself that this stage really is short and because I think he is my last,I try to treasure this time.
Not always easy..Thanks for the support.
Thank you soo much for the reply.
I do feel im stuck between a rock and a hard place.
My dh is supportive of nursing however if I even mention that Im tired he just says well you did it too yourself.Im not about to let my baby cry it out nor do I have the energy to rock him to sleep for 25 minuites a night.x3.Also he is such a busy boy during the day that he really gets a GOOD nurse during the night.Plus..He LOVES the BOOB!!! He would never take a soother or a bottle(i know I know...Around 8mths I was so tired I could throw up,Desperate times)
I try to remind myself that this stage really is short and because I think he is my last,I try to treasure this time.
Not always easy..Thanks for the support.
it is totally not easy at all. I remind myself several times a night that one day I will miss this. And, the thing is that I had to do the same thing with my dd and, know what, I did one day miss it. Okay, I didn't miss it three times a night for months and months on end, but I did miss the close, quiet middle of the night tenderness.
But, no offense or anything, but your dh does not sound supportive at all and THAT must make it 10x harder. What would he prefer you do? Honest and open question which I hope might lead to the most productive way to get his support.
No offense taken.He wouldnt want it any other way,(nursing that is),and he knows its the best possible nutrition.I really think his comment is coming from other reasons!! He just started a new job and with the 3 other children,we are all tired!!!!It just ends up being an argument over who is the most tired!!! Totally ridiculous!!!! LOL!!
I do love the nighttime snuggles but even 5 hours of sleep would be nice!!!!
I once read somewhere ...
"Surrender to Motherhood"
It just reminds me to embrace everything, the great and not so great!!!
Sometimes its nice to know someone else is also up at 3:30 wondering when this baby is going to fall asleep!!! LOL!!
Amber,
Mama to ds (06/91) dd (06/01) dd(06/01) and ds(06/05)
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