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Hi...I am new here but really neede to hear that things will be alright. I feel badly that I did it but I don't think I should have to be verbally abused at work... Heres what happened:
I work nights at a local hospital's admitting dept. I primarily work with one person who has annoyed me from the start. She always falls asleep on the job and I end up doing all the work. Half the time she doesn't know what's going on anyway. Apparenlty, the supervisors are aware that she sleeps, diappears from the dept, and just in general, lazes around. Nothing has been done up until this point. They are very shorthanded and I think they are afraid of saying anything for fear they might lose her.
To make a long story short, she started yelling at me because I would not pick up extra hours and "help out". I was hired for Friday and Saturday nights so that DH could watch the kids on the weekends. I explained to her that that was the case and the next thing I know is that she's calling me a fat, lazy pig and saying other things. I never reciprocated like that but instead, left the room. Then a little while later she comes out and makes another comment about me being too lazy to do something. That is when I walked out and went home. It took alot for me to do that as I am a dependable worker but I couldn't take it anymore and knew she would keep making comments all night. I came home crying and my husband has been very supportive. I called my boss the next morning and explained what had happened (This girl of course left out the part where she called me horrible names) and it was inferred that I would still have to work with her, so I said no. I truly in my heart believe she will act malicious towards me because I have seen her do so to other people.
This was my spending money job and I am SO angry that I had to leave instead of her. No I have to start all over and try to find another job. So far, I have put out a couple resumes but have heard nothing. starting to become depressed and feel like a loser.
Thanks for reading this far....sorry to whine.
NO amount of money is worth being abused by anyone!!! You did the right thing! What a great example you are to your children of assertiveness! You should be proud!
It WILL be okay!
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Gina, mama to Grace (8/1/03) and Landon (4/7/05) 31 Gifts
It was the magic of Disney for me to be able to Ergo-sling Landon in 100 degree weather!
I often think back to my jobs I had and there are a couple that were really bad. They seemed so important at the time, like I would never find another job or something. I don't know. But I think back to them occasionally and just think "WHY did I allow myself to be treated like that??" I think you will be able to do far better than that. Move on, don't look back. Life is too short for that kind of crap and there are so many jobs where you don't have to put up with it. You'll find one.
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I agree but you shouldn't have to find a new job. HR should put you in another position where you're not harrassed. And/or you should get compensation.
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Natalie
mom to
DD #1: tiny terror (6/01) who's becoming a nice little girl
DD #2: peanut 3/04 who's becoming a toddler terror
Wife to Mick -13 yrs
BTW, can you make a case for verbal harrassment that has been documented and the company did nothing about it? Was this a pattern? If so, file for unemployment in the meantime.
Good for you for standing up for yourself.
You'll find something - probably even better.
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Rebecca, wife and mother
Jonathan (3), Lauren (6), and cousin Corey
Jamestown, Kentucky
P.S. Didn't change my siggy due to any other reason than I only intended it to be up for one day. I still stand by each and every word and am happy to repost whenever requested.
I think it was a good choice on your part to remove yourself from the ugly situation, instead of get involved.
I am sorry you had to deal with a coworker treating you like that and I agree with everyone that you should file a harrassment report and also mention that your boss did nothing to improve situation.
If it is a hospital, don't they have surveilance there? Any chance you could talk to someone other than your boss about retreiving the tapes of your last day there to (possibly) show your body language or facial expressions or maybe hers to prove that you two were not just having an informal chat or discussing work? I mean, if she was getting in your face, you can read a person's body to see that it is unwanted....
trying to help.
you will find a better job. good for you for having self respect and not putting up with this b.s.
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Becky,
SUPER DUPER single mama to my 2 lovely ladies!
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I agree but you shouldn't have to find a new job. HR should put you in another position where you're not harrassed. And/or you should get compensation.
they probably would have handled some mediation if it was brought to their attention and formally discussed before she walked out in midshift.
I agree that you didn't deserve to be spoken to that way, I do think there might have been a better way to handle it though. It is tough though when you get upset. it is hard to know what to do
You will find a new job soon
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When the people fear their government, there is tyranny; when the government fears the people, there is liberty.
Thomas Jefferson
Thanks ladies. HR called me and left a message yesterday and I called back and got this woman's vm so we'll see if that why she was calling. There are no cameras in our dept (where it happened) as far as I am aware of but that was a good idea. BUT, on the plus side, I got called for an intervie for tomorrow at another hospital. Maybe this was a blessing in disguise???
Tawnya, your memory lives on in your children.
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