without going into a big whiney story of how stressful life has been lately let me just be brief and say i can't take any more.

i know the counting to ten one...what else?

i hand the baby over to his dear daddy and take long hot bath. i tell dh before hand that heads will roll if he bothers me. lol

i was just thinking this *exact* same thing danica.... ugh. :( hugs mama~

I usually go beat my head against a pillow , then scrounge the cupbaords for the chocolate I wasn't going to eat. If that fails I guzzle rescue remedy and lock myself in teh bathroom. :) Kate

it really helps me to have dh or a friend watch aedan for a 10 minutes, and th en just step outside and go for a walk.

i am in nyc, so there is tons of stuff going on outside to distract me, and then a few minutes later i go back inside.

it also helps me to relax and do some deep breathing exercises. i try to find a quiet place in the house and turn off some lights. if no one is around to watch ds he like to lay beside me and chill out a minute to.

hope you feel better soon!

A cold beer and some hot wings at The Outback work wonders!! And if it's really bad..a shot of tequila can't hurt! ;) Hope things get better!

I hide in the bathroom. Today I wish I had hid in the bathroom all dang day long. These kids are driving me bonkers!!! :vent:

Originally posted by Selissa
i hand the baby over to his dear daddy and take long hot bath. i tell dh before hand that heads will roll if he bothers me. lol

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!

that's just it...he is in his 5th week of a seven week training. i am 23 weeks pregnant with twins who appearantly are resting on my pubic bone and it HURTS...i can't even ~go~ to an ob because we won't be "in the system" of dh's new insurance for 6 to 8 weeks and i can't call him to see if he can do something.

rest? bwahahhahahha! just taking the kids to school is killing me...my 2yo wants to be carried and i can barely do it because of the pain. and then there is the 2 yo boy i babysit several nights a week.

laundry, dishes, and these little people want to eat, too.

baths, washing heads, and clipping nails. darn those nails!

did i mention the overflowing toilet?

first of all (((hugs))). Danica I am so sorry you are dealing with this mama. I just tell dh "I am about to have a melt down and it isn't gonna be pretty. Can you please take the kids for a little while so I can get out and do ___?" If he isn't there I put the kids in thier bouncy seats by the batroom door and put a movie on for jack and take a long hot shower. I wish we lived closer. I would come give you a break for a while mama.
~jen

*sigh* i dont know.. kyla turned 2 on saturday.. and has been a handful all week.... i want milk.. no i dont want milk ... milk splashes to the floor... i want water... no i dont.. ok ill take juice... blah i want more water to dump on the floor.

and i dont think she has stopped screaming for more than 10 minutes all day today.. *sigh* and to think last night i was actually contemplating a little brother....

right now, for you:( I hope you get some much needed Mama time soon

Just remember~tomorrow is a new day~

Take Care of yourself Danica.

...my 2yo wants to be carried and i can barely do it because of the pain. and then there is the 2 yo boy i babysit several nights a week.

Dan, please don't pick up those kiddos mama. That is no good for you or the babies. I know it is hard because I went through the same thing with Jack, but sooner or later he learned that mommy just couldn't lift him and he did things more on his own. That pelvic pressure is so terrible. I also had that and it hurt me BAD to walk for any long length of time (like at the mall or grocery store.) I can also empathise about keeping the house up as well. The next time some irl person tells you to just let those things go ask if they will come over and do them for you...lol! Then say "really, can you come do them for me, I'm not kidding?" That will end those comments. Can you afford to hire some help? Like a teenager for after school, or maybe someone who could help get the kids to and from school? This will all be over soon mama and you will wonder where time went. I am so sorry you are having a rough go of it. Please pm me if you want to talk more about your twin pg woes. I will listen, and nod, and let you cry on my shoulder all you want. This is from a mama who has been there.
~jen

Oh, D! {{HUGS}}

Some ideas... is your iron low? I start to really loose it, I know my iron is running a bit on the low side.

Wu Chi - deep tummy breathing, empty thoughts. It has been helping me immensely, and wigging out could be a daily occurance in this house/zoo.

Eliminate what is bothering you most. If it's stuff in the kitchen, find a way to block it off so the kids aren't able to get in there (this was a HUGE one for me). Be honest with yourself about what you need and troubleshoot to get what you need.

About the pubic bone - is it maybe out of whack? There were days that I couldn't walk when I was pregnant with Adam because it was so bad. I lived at the chiropractor. :-/ But, I was either there, or in bed... couldn't even kneel because it felt like someone was hitting me in the pubic bone with a baseball bat -worst pain I have *EVER* felt in my life. Basically what had happened was my pubic bone was slipping and one side was tilting up and behind the other side right in the middle. It was sooooo painful. it still hurts, just thinking about it. ouch

Oh, are you living my life? That is me......I don't know what I do. Usually have a few glasses of wine (which won't work in your case) and watch the kids run in circles until they crap out.

I pine for the days sometimes when I only had one kid, LOL!

Oh, another thing that has helped my kids behave a little better (aka listen better)... coutning backwards. Rather than counting up, I start with 10, or 5, or 3...whichever. Sets the time limit rght then. Just something that took some stress off...

I put soft classical music on, take a bath, go outside by myself, read, take Bach's Rescue Remedy. I got so bad when I was pregnant, my CNM prescribed me Ambien because I wasn't sleeping from pain and anxiety. That worked wonders beyond words! lol

I'm sorry, wish I was closer to help you out! Is there anyone that can watch the kids so you can have some time to yourself?

Hugs!

1. stop babysitting that little boy at night... even tho you need the extra cash. tell his dad that you need a break till next week maybe.

2. tori can walk. she really can. :)

3. jake and erin can help wash/dry the dishes and/or the house can be messy. really.

4. they don't need a bath every single night. faces washed, hands washed, hair and teeth brushed. it'll be ok for one night.
give yourself a rest.

5. get them to school tomorrow and come over here with tori. We'll get on the phone and deal with the insurance issue. I promise, when i get thru with them you'll have a midwife appt ;)
(or we'll be on the news....)

6. i give great neck rubs. So after we make all the calls we need to and run tori ragged with zoey (so she'll sleep later), i'll give you a neck rub.

so... will see you morrow?

If I'm on top of my game, then I talk like a pirate. I know, now you all KNOW I'm crazy instead of just wondering ;) but really, I do. Like "AR! I be mommy dread beard! Ar! Ahoy mates!" Cracks both me and the kids up and whatever they're doing that's making me insane is stopped while they laugh at me. Then when I'm done talking that way I can distract them with another activity.
If I'm madder or less in control, roaring. Not at them perse, but like a dragon or lion or...yk? "Roooooaaaaaaaaarr! I'm a dragon!" and get the kids to make other animal noises which aslo difuses the situation.

I am ashamed to say that sometimes I am not able to stop myself before I yell, but I always say I'm sorry and we talk about it, and I am getting better.

I think really anything you can do that is funny and at the same time loud or very quiet or somehow changes the tempo/mood of the house is great. I am alone for great quantities of time with my kids, and so I need all I can get yk? I have no car so all we ever go is in the yard. The backyard, nice and fenced, with the crazy lady that's renting the house we're sharing a yard with *shudders* There's really no-where we can walk to other than campus (a slightly dangerous crossing, only because the visiblity is bad for the drivers) or a park (kinda far for the kids and a super busy street to cross, so we only go w/ dh).

hth mama, here's some (((hugs))) for ya!
jess

You live close to Barb? It sounds like she has a plan. I'd do everything she said. And I do believe her that she'll deal with the insurance problem. So, go to her house tomorrow. Bet you feel better by the end of the day.

yeah, i think i will head over there. the insurance problem is one of the big stressers right now. it's such a silly problem...the deal is the hmo is telling me my dh won't be entered into the master system for 6 to 8 weeks. this is after waiting 4 weeks to get signed up. THEN...i am supposed to be able to go to a pcp and THEN i can get a referall to an ob.

hello? that's like 32 weeks pg at that point. i know there are some mamas here that handle their own prenatal health care. i'm not one of them. also, my babies are sharing a placenta so i NEED a sonogram to make sure we don't have disconcordant growth.

so i explain my predicament to the hmo and the rep says to go to dh's hr for proof of insurance...but guess what? hr won't talk to me because i don't work there! i can't call dh but he did happen to call last night and i explained he needed to do something. he is supposed to call me back today with an update.

blah! so it's not really that bad, it's just one more thing to deal with that i don't have the energy/patience for.

thank you everyone for all the sympathy though :). it really did help a lot!!!