My dh was home today, no work and no school we went out to the flea markets with his family and his brother had two of the kids, I had the new baby in the sling and our oldest dd with me, one of the booths we were looking at the lady started oohing and awwing about the baby saying how sweet, how adorable you know on and on, then my husband walked up and she was saying what a pretty family we had and he mentioned that we had two more kids too, when she relized we had 4 she asked "that" question your not gonna have anymore are you? when I said well maybe one day, she went nutso on me!!! she said I was crazy for not getting my tubes tied, asked how we were gonna afford them, it' s so sad there seems to be such a difference in some peoples attitude towards your family when you have 4 or more kids, it hurts your feelings you know, anyways mostly I feel sad that they can't see the joy and love that comes with a larger then "normal" family.

I don't think they own a censor. Once you get past a certain # of kids, it's like your free game for them to say whatever they want. I hate it. :eyes: And I hate even more that the kids hear it and may feel like they are a negative which they are definitely not.

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I honestly don't think they know they're being rude but telling them sometimes helps.

I actually had a woman say "I'm sorry" when I found out I was pregnant with my last baby (#4) and I was like "Why? I fought long and hard to have each of my children and I'm so grateful to be able to have another one." She was all apologetic after that but what an idiot! Of course this was the lady who would bring her refluxing 3 month old to church and lay him down in an empty classroom on the floor and let him scream because "he's supposed to be sleeping now - I can't let him win this one". :(

I probably would have said something about "Well, it's honestly none of your business and I don't appreciate you castigating me about how many children I have. We'll just take our money elsewhere." and leave it at that.

I really think most folks who will go so far as to say such tings, truly don't care if they are being rude. I think some people feel entitled to say anything they like, and will justify it, in their minds at least, in any ways needed for them to feel okay being just as rude as they please.

But, I'm so obviously right! And she *neeeeeeds* my advice poor thing. Of course we'll help them.

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No thank you, we are currently not accepting unsolicited rudeness. Say goodbye to our money! :D



Sorry, I don't know what's gotten into me. ((hug))

I went to a kids Christmas party this year and saw my old neighbor. I told him I had twins and now have 6 kids. He asked me what was wrong with me. I told him I like kids (after I stood there reeling for a few seconds) and then he said I should be as happy as hell. I couldn't believe it. We weren't great friends or anything but did speak occasionally and lived next to each other for about 5 years.

I only have 3 and when I was pg with #3 I got asked the question a lot, "are you happy?" and "are you done" or "you aren't having anymore..." when I answered "possibly" or "I don't know" I was looked at like I was crazy. I personally don't understand what goes through peoples heads to say such insane things.

I'm sorry she was rude to you. I have to really think about it, but I choose to remember those times that people were kind and excited about all of my children. I get the occasional "are they all yours" but I've decided that's not meant to be a rude question so I just answer, lol. "Yep, they sure are!" I reallllyyyy hate when people ask "are you done now?". I usually go into vivid detail. Like, "well, my husband had a vasectomy but apparently his SPERM (say more loudly) are very virile so you never know! Maybe one of these days one of his LITTLE SWIMMERS will bust it's way free and find itself IN MY UTERUS again and then I guess we won't be done." Usually they're walking away embarassed before I even get to finish my little tirade, lol. I just talk louder though, make sure they hear me however many aisles they've made it away from me. :D

I'm sorry she was rude to you. I have to really think about it, but I choose to remember those times that people were kind and excited about all of my children. I get the occasional "are they all yours" but I've decided that's not meant to be a rude question so I just answer, lol. "Yep, they sure are!" I reallllyyyy hate when people ask "are you done now?". I usually go into vivid detail. Like, "well, my husband had a vasectomy but apparently his SPERM (say more loudly) are very virile so you never know! Maybe one of these days one of his LITTLE SWIMMERS will bust it's way free and find itself IN MY UTERUS again and then I guess we won't be done." Usually they're walking away embarassed before I even get to finish my little tirade, lol. I just talk louder though, make sure they hear me however many aisles they've made it away from me. :D

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lol, thats funny, yes it IS wonderful when people are kind, the only times it REALLY bothers me is when they, it's always women too turn to my husband and tell him, "well how do you feel about it?" or "I feel sorry for you"
Like he has NO say in the matter, and I am destroying HIS life,what in the world is up with that?! While reminding me that I need a mental evaluation,lol.

I'm sorry she was rude to you. I have to really think about it, but I choose to remember those times that people were kind and excited about all of my children. I get the occasional "are they all yours" but I've decided that's not meant to be a rude question so I just answer, lol. "Yep, they sure are!" I reallllyyyy hate when people ask "are you done now?". I usually go into vivid detail. Like, "well, my husband had a vasectomy but apparently his SPERM (say more loudly) are very virile so you never know! Maybe one of these days one of his LITTLE SWIMMERS will bust it's way free and find itself IN MY UTERUS again and then I guess we won't be done." Usually they're walking away embarassed before I even get to finish my little tirade, lol. I just talk louder though, make sure they hear me however many aisles they've made it away from me. :D

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when I was pregnant with harrison and unhappy about it at first - I actually had a lady suggest to me that I "get it taken care of"

:(

seriously? she didn't even know me! and she thought it was ok to say that?

when I was pregnant with harrison and unhappy about it at first - I actually had a lady suggest to me that I "get it taken care of"

:(

seriously? she didn't even know me! and she thought it was ok to say that?

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I would have been LIVID! :tantrum:

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I think they realize they are saying something rude but do not care. Ignore, Ignore

The person I get the most crap about it from is my FIL. He says he no longer even tells his friends because they think we are off our rockers.....

It really pisses me off. I know he loves each and every one of his grand kids to death and he really will do anything for them but man his attitude when I am pregnant again just makes me angry as hell.