when your kids are resistant to your tapping on them/for them? I tapped for DD the other day because she said she had to go to the bathroom RIGHT NOW, and I was driving and couldn't stop. She yelled at me, "Stop TAPPING!" I continued, tapping my fingers on the steering wheel, and we made it home, but I find it interesting that my kids often do not want me to tap on or for them (and I don't try very often).

I don't know what it means. My 7 yo is generally happy to have me tap on him. My 10 yo gets angry. I think it has to do with the fact that she knows that I am trying to fix her or her behavior in that moment. If I am doing it to help her, it seems better sometimes, but not always.

I think that for children who are very strong willed, they do not want anything imposed on them.

DH refuses to let me tap with him even though he supports me tapping for myself and the children. What does that mean?

Maybe that he trusts you but things EFT might be wierd? lol

So far I have only worked with Ben and he is always open to my teaching him something. I hope that trait continues.

ONe day I said to Rehana, 'my daughter Leah really resists tapping with me. She used to love it and now won't do it. IT has helped her so much in the past'
Rehana said to me "don't give her anything to resist'That is all she said to me.
My reaction was 'HUH?????'

However, I stopped giving Leah anything to resist about. Stopped trying to 'fix' her problems...I did not offer to tap with her. I just told her 'if you ever want to tap with me or want me to tap for you, I will."

My advice will always be, tap for yourself FIRST. Clear yourself of any intensity you have on an issue about your child...THEN tap for your child.
When you clear yourself only then can you be clear and present for your children.

For example, your child is biting their nails. It is driving you NUTS. You want them to quit. Tap on YOUR issues around this...and THEN you can be clear and present for your child.

I will also say again, and again, I notice that the more of my OWN issues that I clear, that my children's issues tend to settle as well. It is not always true, but really, take care of yourself first and your family will follow. I PROMISE. Also when you clear your own stuff you can be more clear with your intuition about your children.

My dh won't tap. That is cool with me. (I didn't like it at first though!:shake: ) we each have our own paths and our own ways of healing. I don't think it means aything other then he does not want to tap and wants to go his own way. :)

Look at it this way - tapping for somebody is an intervention. Energetic intervention into somebody's personal space. Like, for example, massage is a physical intervention into somebody's' personal space

All interventions have to be allowed by the receiver, but to be effective they often have to be welcomed, even if it is on a curiosity level.

The good thing is (I think :) ) that your DD is attuned to this energy and may be with time will be open to try it herself? She just does not like for it to be sort of imposed on her?

Maybe that he trusts you but things EFT might be wierd? lol

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Probably. I am grateful that through my own spiritual growth he has ALWAYS been supportive. And he has grown tremdously too. I know many women are not so lucky.

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My dh won't tap. That is cool with me. (I didn't like it at first though!:shake: ) we each have our own paths and our own ways of healing. I don't think it means aything other then he does not want to tap and wants to go his own way. :)

This is true. Nobody wants to need to be fixed. When I try to fix them, they feel like they are broken. I need to just fix myself and the rest will follow. (I should have this tatooed on my arm and look at it every day. :o )

I think that last statement was my most profound revelation of the year. Yikes. What have I been doing?

I think that last statement was my most profound revelation of the year. Yikes. What have I been doing?

That is a good question for you, 'what are you doing?'
No 'yikes'...just 'ah ha'