Hi friends,

Well I'm not one to ask for help much so the fact that I'm asking for tapping help again means this must be a very special place with a bunch of awesome mamas - (but then again we already know that!)

Two things --

The first is I've been hit with a cold/sinus infection/ear infection -- even though I tapped a lot for the shock of my mil's hospitalization, it still was a lot of shock to my system and I got ill. (I also had my dad visiting for christmas which gets me off center and my grandmother died after a long struggle with alzheimers) ......I was hit by a migraine, turned into flu like symptoms and now have this ear infection ... I'm tapping for myself and treating myself homeopathically so the symptoms are moving but I feel like I need an extra boost. I think one round of tapping from this circle would be all I needed to get me over the hump ...


The other thing is that my sister Jane had a baby a few days ago. A really cutie named Mary Jane -- the birth was a little rough and they had to use head suction and her billirubin is up a bit. I'd love to help clear any birth trauma but most importantly support her in the billirubin. The blood tests and lights are a pain and really interfering with my sister just tuning into and being with her baby. I am also tapping for her on this and got to work with her in person a bit but the power of a circle would be great.

Thinking of you, Deborah. I am trying to get into a habit of regular tapping. I will be tapping for you!

I will tap for you both later today:):heart:

You are so NEEDY, Deborah...(lol!!!)(hope you know I am teasing?)

Oh..and CONGRATS Auntie Deborah!

I will tap for you, Jane, and Mary Jane later tonight when it is quiet. :heart:

Rhea

I didn't get to it last night, but just tapped for all of you know. I felt very tuned into Mary Jane:) I really felt drawn to tap on her birth trauma ...as a result of tapping on the Bilirubin...like that was the main issue..the birth trauma. Will try to tap more on that.

I also tapped for your ear infection. I felt resistance from you in letting it go which surprised me...

Thanks everyone .... so glad to hear Linda you were able to tune into Mary Jane -- I saw her today and she is doing so well -- her head is completely cleared from the bruising. Her skin still looks a bit yellow but her demeanor is amazing - she's so calm. Thanks for working on the birth trauma -- it was a bit scary - she was twisted sideways and then had her hand by her face which blocked her and then her cord was wrapped around her ankle trapping her and then the suction was used -

Interesting that you found resistance to my letting go of the ear pain ... makes sense though, otherwise why would I have it? But I'll have to ponder that and see what comes up. I'm getting a sense of punishing myself -- but no idea why. ( I actually ended up going to the ER because it was so bad and I couldn't clear it. I can't believe I'm saying this but it felt good to go and get help, even from an allopathic doctor. It's on the mend today ... )

I am doing a three day spiritual intensive this weekend and wonder what will come up --

Nothing is ever as it seems, that's for sure.

And what's funny Linda, I know you were kidding, but I feel totally needy -- which I don't like at all .... very uncomfortable for me .... aahhhhhh! <<<<<running away screaming ...>>>> :)

Thanks everyone .... so glad to hear Linda you were able to tune into Mary Jane -- I saw her today and she is doing so well -- her head is completely cleared from the bruising. Her skin still looks a bit yellow but her demeanor is amazing - she's so calm. Thanks for working on the birth trauma -- it was a bit scary - she was twisted sideways and then had her hand by her face which blocked her and then her cord was wrapped around her ankle trapping her and then the suction was used -

Interesting that you found resistance to my letting go of the ear pain ... makes sense though, otherwise why would I have it? But I'll have to ponder that and see what comes up. I'm getting a sense of punishing myself -- but no idea why. ( I actually ended up going to the ER because it was so bad and I couldn't clear it. I can't believe I'm saying this but it felt good to go and get help, even from an allopathic doctor. It's on the mend today ... )

I am doing a three day spiritual intensive this weekend and wonder what will come up --

Nothing is ever as it seems, that's for sure.

And what's funny Linda, I know you were kidding, but I feel totally needy -- which I don't like at all .... very uncomfortable for me .... aahhhhhh! <<<<<running away screaming ...>>>> :)

so glad to hear everyone is on the mend.so glad.
I was actually TESTING you when I said you were needy~to see what might come up for you. It is definitely a theme..that comes up for you. Not wanting to aks for help push/pull...needing it so much, but not feeling comfortable asking for it. THe whole 'my needs were not met as a baby thing?' Maybe you need proof over and over that you won't be rejected when you reach out for help? hmm....

Along these lines..it stood out to me that you DID get help from the ER...and was happy to get help from SOMEONE..so you honored that part of yourself? Maybe a lesson for you is that you need to reach out for help and feel like it is OK?

IS the ear infection directly linked to your dad somehow?(if you ask your intuition?)

its a journey...one day at a time...

so what did they give you in the ER that helped?

Oh Deborah, that is a lot on your mind. No wonder you fell ill. :hug:

I hope your ear infection clears up quickly. I had a severe one about 9 years ago. I know that pain is worse than any other. I'm partially deaf from that infection and we think a reaction to antibiotics. Be real careful. Ear problems scare me now.

I tapped on that for you and I got a pain in my back about mid-way down. I'll tap some more again tomorrow. I hope it helps clear things up for you!

I tapped for the baby and briefly had some pain in my left arm. I'll tap for her again as well.

Take time for yourself Deborah. You really need to carve it in. Update us if you can.

Best wishes!!

so glad to hear everyone is on the mend.so glad.
I was actually TESTING you when I said you were needy~to see what might come up for you. It is definitely a theme..that comes up for you. Not wanting to aks for help push/pull...needing it so much, but not feeling comfortable asking for it. THe whole 'my needs were not met as a baby thing?' Maybe you need proof over and over that you won't be rejected when you reach out for help? hmm....

Along these lines..it stood out to me that you DID get help from the ER...and was happy to get help from SOMEONE..so you honored that part of yourself? Maybe a lesson for you is that you need to reach out for help and feel like it is OK?

IS the ear infection directly linked to your dad somehow?(if you ask your intuition?)

its a journey...one day at a time...

so what did they give you in the ER that helped?

You are exactly right -- I felt stupid going to the ER and really thought they would think I was a wimp -- but it felt so good to acknowledge I needed more help than I could give myself. So, yes it was honoring. Last time I went was when I broke my toe when my dad was visiting ... same story - I felt stupid going but also felt empowered going. I really have to clear this ... I don't want to keep getting hurt or ill when he visits!

The obvious connection to my dad:

As a kid I used to get horrible swimmer's ear. I'd wake up in horrible pain and not go in to wake my dad. (I lived with him in the summer). I would wait until the morning until he and his wife got up. I was too embarrassed to wake him up - I felt like it would have been imposing. I remember this happening two times.

Okay, way more work to do. I talk with my eft coach Monday so I'll have lots to clear with her!

Oh Deborah, that is a lot on your mind. No wonder you fell ill. :hug:

I hope your ear infection clears up quickly. I had a severe one about 9 years ago. I know that pain is worse than any other. I'm partially deaf from that infection and we think a reaction to antibiotics. Be real careful. Ear problems scare me now.

I tapped on that for you and I got a pain in my back about mid-way down. I'll tap some more again tomorrow. I hope it helps clear things up for you!

I tapped for the baby and briefly had some pain in my left arm. I'll tap for her again as well.

Take time for yourself Deborah. You really need to carve it in. Update us if you can.

Best wishes!!

Thanks Kimberly for the support. I'm sorry to hear about infection and hearing loss - I was actually wondering about that ... in retrospect, what would you have done differently for yourself?

Hugs,
Deb.

Deborah,
I tapped briefly for you last night and the night before. The first night, what came up was fear, needing a break, wanting to be taken care of. They sound like my issues, LOL, so I don't know if they apply to you at all....;)

Deborah. I tapped a bit last night too. Had this feeling of a lot of falling, like a very powerful (and tall/long) waterfall. Not sure it that means anything to you. But lots of falling.

I hope that you are better.

One trick from homeopathy (since you mentioned using that too) that I have learned recently (and it is a basic, so you may already do this and I don't know why it was not part of my reportoire before), but aconite (esp. in high potencies, like 1M) is great for shock and at first signs of illness. It works best, in my experience, taken immediately at the first sign of something. Though, even for past shocks, it works well. Again, I would use a high potency. For things from the past, one dose before bed seems best.

And, you used the work honoring somewhere. This has come up for me a lot lately too as I work on honoring my needs, the needs of my body, etc. I think it is important for a lot of us.

I wish I had taken aconite right away -- I do forget about it ... thanks for the reminder -- I think it's too late now?

A homeopathic question -- can belladona ever be used for a left sided symptom if other symptoms fit?

I wish I had taken aconite right away -- I do forget about it ... thanks for the reminder -- I think it's too late now?

A homeopathic question -- can belladona ever be used for a left sided symptom if other symptoms fit?


I did not remember anything about sides for belladona. So I pulled out two Materia Medicas and this is what stands out:

Belladonna is always associated with hot, red skin, flushed face, glaring eyes/dialated pupils, excited mental state, restless sleep, delirium, throbbing pain.

Inflammation with redness, heat, swelling and pain.

But, I did not see anything about it being right-sided. I did not read every line though. Still, I think if you have the above bolded symptoms, belladona can help.

I wish I had taken aconite right away -- I do forget about it ... thanks for the reminder -- I think it's too late now?



And I want to add that, for me, this is one of the things that I am learning. These are very complicated times for human beings. We need many modalities to survive and thrive. So I would take the aconite and tap too. If I had no aconite, I would just tap. If I was dealing with multiple people needing me (other upset family members, an injured or scared child), I'd give an aconite and save the tapping for later -- like after the bandages were on or whatever.

To answer you more specifically Deborah, it might be too late for the aconite. Another possibility is ignatia, which is good for hysteria and loss. It is a common grief remedy.

(moved to the private forum)

I'm stumped as the tapping is not affecting the ear pain AT ALL. And I can't access the emotions at all. I'll know more Monday when I tap with Kathleen, my coach.

I am in touch with my homeopath who's away but in email contact.

Deborah sending you tons of love and light and want you to know I am very fond of you and grateful for you and one of the beautiful things about you is your realness and willingness to share your own walk so hang in mama as you tread this hurdle. I am here watching in awe.

I've taken belladonna for symptoms even when they weren't right-sided.

Linda, is your ear problem in the outer year or inner?

I've had an inner ear something in my right ear for almost 2 years now. My naturopath says there is no sign of infection, and he believes I got a fluid build up at some point and it hasn't gone away. He says it can get thick and be hard to clear. But here's the thing, the fluid makes my voice very loud in my own ear, but if I tilt my head to the side, I can hear better and my voice isn't loud anymore. That kind of says to me that it isn't thick. Also, it lessens and worsens.

Yesterday doing read alouds for my six year old I had to read with my head tilted to the side. It is so frustrating!

When I tapped for Aida's (I think it was Aida's) ear mine got better, but never went away. One night I was tapping for Aida's ear and my pain went away, but not the fluid. (The pain also comes and goes.)

When I tap for my own ear, I've never noticed any change at all. : (

Any ideas, suggestions, would be GREATLY appreciated.

Rhea

Linda, is your ear problem in the outer year or inner?

I've had an inner ear something in my right ear for almost 2 years now. My naturopath says there is no sign of infection, and he believes I got a fluid build up at some point and it hasn't gone away. He says it can get thick and be hard to clear. But here's the thing, the fluid makes my voice very loud in my own ear, but if I tilt my head to the side, I can hear better and my voice isn't loud anymore. That kind of says to me that it isn't thick. Also, it lessens and worsens.

Yesterday doing read alouds for my six year old I had to read with my head tilted to the side. It is so frustrating!

When I tapped for Aida's (I think it was Aida's) ear mine got better, but never went away. One night I was tapping for Aida's ear and my pain went away, but not the fluid. (The pain also comes and goes.)

When I tap for my own ear, I've never noticed any change at all. : (

Any ideas, suggestions, would be GREATLY appreciated.

Rhea
Rhea..I am ROTFLOL! because it is Deborah's ear
and Leah's ear..

lol! no worries, mama.

OK..on YOUR ear.
I will ask you a few questions..
What was going on in your life about the time...6 months before or so that you noticed the inner ear thing? meditate wile tappin on this..it ican be SO HELPFUL!

you can tap while you think about it, it seems to help:)
other questions you can ask yourself are..
when was the first time or worst time you noticed the inner ear thing..does it remind you of something form your past?

or..

do you have an emotion associated with the ear thing, what does that emotion remind you of? anger, sadness, fear??? abandonment?

let me know if you come up with anything...
we can start a new thread if you want.

Deborah sending you tons of love and light and want you to know I am very fond of you and grateful for you and one of the beautiful things about you is your realness and willingness to share your own walk so hang in mama as you tread this hurdle. I am here watching in awe.

Thanks K-J - that means a lot.
Hugs,
Deb.

I'm stumped as the tapping is not affecting the ear pain AT ALL. And I can't access the emotions at all. I'll know more Monday when I tap with Kathleen, my coach.

I am in touch with my homeopath who's away but in email contact.


I know I already said this, but I think one of the lessons for all healers is to be open and to be willing to reach for another tool in the toolbox when one doesn't work -- just like you are doing. It is not that EFT can't help this. But for some reason you're stuck. Maybe homepathy can alleviate the pain or clear something else and then you will be able to focus more or gain new insight for tapping. Maybe you need a chiropractor or an osteopath to make a mechanical adjustment and everything will start falling into place.

I went in reverse with homeopathy being my main thing. I loved it (still do) and thought it could cure anything. If it didn't work, obviously I just hadn't found the right remedy (and I was working with professional homeopaths). Kind of like you read all of the stuff on the EFT sites and know EFT has worked miracles for things that seem much bigger than what your are dealing with and figure it should be working for you, but it doesn't (for this).

Anyway, all my rambling is probably more about me and my own issues than about you, but it was a long-winded way of saying I think you are doing the right thing by trying homeopathy (and whatever else you might need) and I hope that you are healed very soon.

Rhea..I am ROTFLOL! because it is Deborah's ear
and Leah's ear..
lol! no worries, mama.
<snip>
let me know if you come up with anything...
we can start a new thread if you want.

Oh, I'm so sorry. I even searched to find the original thread since I couldn't remember which of your children had the ear problem (it was YOUR child wasn't it?) but I didn't find it and was running out of time before we had to leave... <sigh>

I also didn't meant to intrude on Deborah's ear thread, I've just been living with this thing for so long and when reading this thread got excited that maybe someone would have some ideas for me, EFT wise or other.

Rhea

Oh, I'm so sorry. I even searched to find the original thread since I couldn't remember which of your children had the ear problem (it was YOUR child wasn't it?) but I didn't find it and was running out of time before we had to leave... <sigh>

I also didn't meant to intrude on Deborah's ear thread, I've just been living with this thing for so long and when reading this thread got excited that maybe someone would have some ideas for me, EFT wise or other.

Rhea

It was Leah(mine all mine!!!)
lets start a new thread for you:) so you can answer questions...lol!

Oh, and to finish my rambling and get to my point: after homeopathy worked a bunch of miracles for my children, it suddenly stopped working. Remedy after remedy. Excellent homeopath after excellent homeopath, we seemed to be stuck. And that is what led me to look for something new. Now, I have added other things to what we do, including (among other modalities) lots of much better nutrition and EFT.

Oh, and to finish my rambling and get to my point: after homeopathy worked a bunch of miracles for my children, it suddenly stopped working. Remedy after remedy. Excellent homeopath after excellent homeopath, we seemed to be stuck. And that is what led me to look for something new. Now, I have added other things to what we do, including (among other modalities) lots of much better nutrition and EFT.

I can relate with that. I have many different routes to health and healing too. Sometimes you have to look for another answer.

Totally relate to what you write being myself a total homeopath junkie ... I still think if it doesn't work, it means I just haven't found the right remedy. I *hate* thinking that my chosen modality won't work for *everything*! Same with tapping.

I still think that if I find the right modality (tapping, homeopathy) that I should be able to clear something quickly. I get discouraged and think I'm doing something "wrong" if it doesn't.

On the other hand, I am aware that my body is doing its best to keep the disturbance in my vital force at the safest place -- so really, this ear pain is my body's doing it best to handle "something".

So is there a message in all of this? Maybe patience? I don't know ...

So is there a message in all of this? Maybe patience? I don't know ...

I ask myself this message constantly with my various struggles (which seem so small and silly compared to what most of the world is dealing with). When I am in the midst of it, I cannot seem to gleen the message. Nothing makes sense.

I think we are back to that word: honoring. Honoring where we are when we are there. Honoring ourselves. Doing what we can with EFT or whatever modality we need. And letting our best at the moment be good enough.

:hbeat: :hug: (((Deborah))) :hug: :hbeat:

So I was doing some journaling last night and I looked back at my notes. I had had a good Christmas but the day after Christmas, I was starting to feel under-resourced -- and this is part of what I wrote:

"I need a sympathetic ear. Some down time, some time to not have any responsibilities. More loving touch."

Isn't that a hoot? I never write or say "sympathetic ear" .....

I'm sure those emotions were a precursor to the ear-ache ....

Makes sense now ....

Guess I'll have to start paying more attention to what I write to myself,
Thanks for sticking with me everyone,
Deb.

Sympathetic ear. Amazing.

You know the answers. Fulfill your needs, Deborah. :hug:

How is your ear today?

Thanks for asking Kimberly.

It's improving ever so slowly .... no more pain, thank goodness.

But I still can't hear out of it as there is still swelling of the outer ear. (was middle so it's shifting ....)

I was at a intense Enneagram/spiritual workshop this weekend and it was so weird not being able to hear fully or interact totally. I was in this introverted state the whole weekend. (Actually very good for me ....)

Interesting the ear troubles we've had on this group ....

Hugs,
Deb.

I'm glad to hear it is improving, Deborah. I know that clogged ear feeling is awful. Hope you continue to heal!!