I have two daughters who are off living in dorms at college right now. I talk to the 18 year old about once a week on the phone and the calls go on for hours. There are also e-mails and occasional comments she leaves on my blog. The 16 year old doesn't want to talk to me at all. She told me the other day that my voice filled her with rage.
The 18 year old is already telling me that she will be living with us over the summer. The 16 year old told me that she will live on the streets if she doesn't succeed in college, because she is never going to live with me again ( she's still mad because I thought 16 was too young to go off and live in a dorm).
It's gotten to the point where I dread talking to her.

Absolutely NO advice, but just wanted to let you know I read this. :hug:

wow, poor mama. IM hoping this is just a stage for her? I remember thinking really poorly of my own mom when I was that age and now she's one of my best friends, so maybe? (((HUGS))

I said really bad things to my mom when I was a teen. Now she is like my best friend and we talk about a zillion times a day. Hopefully this is just a raging, hormonal teen thing going on. Hugs to ya mama and stay positive.

That's such a hard age. Maybe knowing the 18 year old wants to come back over the summer will give you some hope that you're doing a good job. :hug:

I just talked to my 18 year old on the phone for a couple hours last night. She already knew all the awful things her sister had said to me because her sister had told her about our conversation in great detail, but with no remorse. My mom gets both girls for Christmas break this year, I sure hope the 16 year old is nicer to her grandmother than she is to me.

16 in college? is she a gifted child? She's most likely going through a lot on the inside and you happen to be what she is using to express all the unknowns. Remember, she does talk to you, even though not kindly, and she feels safe enough with you to talk boldly to you. If she didn't she wouldn't even bother.

No, she's not really gifted. She's smart, but not exceptionally so. Minnesota has an early admissions program that allows high school students to go to college early if they just get a good score on the ACT. It's like "duel enrollment", but since she was home schooled when she was with her dad in Minnesota, she doesn't have to be enrolled in high school at the same time she's taking her college courses.
She's living in a dorm because her dad moved out of state right after getting her signed up for college.
She had been staying with us from Feb. until school started in the fall and I really didn't want her to go.
She's a pain in the butt, but she's my pain in the butt, and I wanted her to finish high school while living with us. This makes her angry, because she thinks I'm trying to deny her the greatest opportunity of her life.