Though I'd share, lol.
Well, I waited FORTY MINUTES for the psychologist to show,so...there was no testing done! I am taking it as a sign not to get him tested right now, but to trust my instincts and wait. (Something I should have done in the first place!!!)

Thanks for listening, mamas!
Amy





I am only doing this to appease the ILS.:vent:

I know DS needs more time with certain concepts, or simply does not care to learn them. For instance, one day, Henry knew 10 letters. The next, 24.

As you all know, DS forgot his colors this past December which prompted the "maybe you shouldn't be HS Henry anymore" topic. By the next day, he knew his colors. :rolleyes:

DH told me he couldn't read until he was 8; his mom was emphatic and said "NO, he could read by the end of first grade." Okay, that would make him 7 and 1/2.!

My fear is what if it IS my fault that Henry isn't learning? The psychologist was taken aback by how little time I spend with him in HS: an hour a day, 3-5 times a week, not counting reading to him, going hiking, going to the museum, art class, etc ad nauseum.

Well, at least I was honest.:eyes:

{{Amy}}

Do you think maybe it was a "I don't want to tell you the colors because I know them and it's stupid for me to tell you if I know them" type of thing? Adam will do that with me... but he certainly hasn't forgotten, it's a power thing. he doesn't HAVE to tell me, kwim? And he may have thought it funny to let you think he didn't know his colors and said the wrong colors on purpose.

And of course the psychologist was taken back. They usually see kids in school all day long - but with so many other kids. They don't get the one on one. Spending an hour a day on academics is perfectly fine.

But remember, there are so many other ways to assess what kids know. While folding clothes, "Henry, can you fold the red shirt for me?" When he picks out the red shirt - you know he knew what red was. kwim?

So many people believe the only way kids can learn is through a formal classroom setting and it just isn't so. Young children, especially, learn SO much from playing games and just being in their environment. By pointing things out in everyday life, he is learning.

Be gentle on yourself. If he DOES have a learning disability it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. It also doesn't mean he needs to go to school to get what he needs. YOU have the vested interest in him succeeding, so you ARE his best teacher. Don't let anyone around you tell you that you aren't. You can learn everything you need to learn to teach him best.

{{Amy}}

Do you think maybe it was a "I don't want to tell you the colors because I know them and it's stupid for me to tell you if I know them" type of thing? Adam will do that with me... but he certainly hasn't forgotten, it's a power thing. he doesn't HAVE to tell me, kwim? And he may have thought it funny to let you think he didn't know his colors and said the wrong colors on purpose.



With Henry, I think it's more of, "I'll give you any answer, so I can go back to playing"

He forgot his colors with a video game system. LOL!!!My MIL told him to press the red button, and Henry paused and pressed a yellow one. Because fo that, it was decided by them that I can't HS Henry!! Crazy!!

I think he is also like his sister: under any kind of pressure at that age, she fell apart and couldn't "perform". (At 14 she is fine now, she can even talk in front of groups.) For example, if we were in a rush and I'd say, 'You're shoes are under the table!!" she'd look by the door first; she got flustered easily. (We are much more organized these days, too.:) )

Thank you Heather for your words of encouragement!!!!!!!!

Adam does that same type of thing. Complete and utter melt down when under any pressure.

If that's all he did, I wouldn't assume he forgot his colors. {{hugs}} It is so hard to know we are doing the right thing when others around us don't seem to put value on what we are doing.

plain and simple, I would tell my IL's to stay out of it. It's none of their business how you school your children! If they can't support you, they can stay out of it.

This is why I haven't told everyone. :hahaha:

This is why I haven't told everyone. :hahaha:
Wise choice!

Though I'd share, lol.
Well, I waited FORTY MINUTES for the psychologist to show,so...there was no testing done!

That's nuts! Sorry, mama! What a waste of your time. :hug: Sounds like a sign to me as well.

My fear is what if it IS my fault that Henry isn't learning? The psychologist was taken aback by how little time I spend with him in HS: an hour a day, 3-5 times a week, not counting reading to him, going hiking, going to the museum, art class, etc ad nauseum.

We all wonder are we doing enough for our child(ren). Taking sole responsibility for your child's education is tough sometimes!

In my county in Central FL public school children get 51 minutes of "education" per day yet they are in school for 6 hours 30 minutes a day. An hour a day of homeschooling is plenty considering it's a one on one tutoring type situation.

My youngest child's speech therapist thinks it's best for my son that he is homeschooled. She says there is no way the schools could provide as rich an education as my child receives at home.

Sincerely,
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages 10, 9, 7, and 44 mos