Dh think dd age 5 needs someone to play with. We have about 3 different kids in our neighborhood around her age. She doesn't want to play with them. She'd rather play with her brother or by herself. She's in dance and I mentioned that to him. I even suggested that we sign her up for something like karate. But he said she doesn't need a class she needs friends.:shake: How else can she make a friend though? She hasn't said she wanted a friend. I dunno what to do...

Ds on the other hand is fine. He is friends with our next door neighbor and has friends in soccer.

I would join the co-op here but I don't think I can sign up till August.

I would try playgroups.. are there other hs'ers in the area? sports activities, special interest, church?

PS doesn't get you friends. ;)

Dh think dd age 5 needs someone to play with. We have about 3 different kids in our neighborhood around her age. She doesn't want to play with them. She'd rather play with her brother or by herself.

DD didn't have any friends until last year. (She's 14.) Kids would come over to play, but usually she told me to tell them that she didn't want to play. She tolerated kids her age; she wasn't really into playing with them. I watched her interact with kids her age and she did fine. It wasn't like she'd shy away and say nothing to someone if the spoke to her,kwim?

Now she is a social butterfly.

Your DD might not be "into" playing with kids right now.

both my ds's have a ton of friends. other hs children in our neighborhood and children from church make up all their friends. if you aren't involved in hs activities (most groups welcome new members all throughout the year - you may not be able to get in on the co-op since most are 3/4 of the way through their year but the support group and playdates/playgroup are normally always open), what about church activities? my boys are involved in sunday school and children in action so they have a lot of pals from there as well. (we are very active in church). extracurricular lessons and taking "classes" won't generally make new friends; they are in that setting to learn a new skill and don't get time to socialize. same with a school setting. with the exception of a 20 minute recess they are expected to sit quietly and listen/learn, not socialize.
hs'ing doesn't present problems for socializing children contrary to the mainstream, public schooling society. it's a huge myth that is purely ridiculous when you stop and think about it.

Is there anyone in dance class she might want to have come over?

what about church activities? my boys are involved in sunday school and children in action so they have a lot of pals from there as well. (we are very active in church). extracurricular lessons and taking "classes" won't generally make new friends; they are in that setting to learn a new skill and don't get time to socialize.


The church we go to only has sunday school for their ages. Isn't sunday school considered a class though?

Is there anyone in dance class she might want to have come over?

Yes, there is one girl that she used to play with. I could talk to her mom about it.

what about church activities? my boys are involved in sunday school and children in action so they have a lot of pals from there as well. (we are very active in church). extracurricular lessons and taking "classes" won't generally make new friends; they are in that setting to learn a new skill and don't get time to socialize.


The church we go to only has sunday school for their ages. Isn't sunday school considered a class though?

i don't know what kind of church you go to. our children have a blast in sunday school -- it's very interactive and the classes are small - the kids get to know each other well. so while they get a lesson, they aren't "in school" -- today, for example, they went out in the community and delivered food.

My dd just turned six and has no "friends". She sometimes plays with children of acquaintances, but generally she too is happy on her own or with her brother. Her favorite things at other people's houses is the different toys! She plays fine with others, but isn't driven to. She is total introvert, and that is fine with me and dh. She enjoys people sometimes, but despite enjoying time with them she comes away tired and will even say, "Mommy, I think I need some time by myself or just snuggling you." We've been trying to teach her how not to burn out at big get-togethers where she wants to play non-stop but stops having fun if she does.

So that's a long way of saying, don't worry.

Some children need and love lots of interaction. My god-daughter thrives on it. My dd enjoys spending time with her or her high-energy cousin, but then overloads and has to get away. It's not poor socialization, but personality.

Hope that helps.