I remember reading on here a year or more ago about a website or collection of articles written from a spiritual perspective.

I know my sex drive needs work, and I truly feel that it's mainly from guilt I felt growing up knowing sex was bad bad bad when I was a teenager because I wasn't married. Now I've been married 10 years and still can't get it on without feeling awful. I know we're allowed now and that God created sex for our joy, etc. I know all that logically, but emotionally I'm obviously still not there. Truly, I think I need some kind of sex therapy. Or maybe a good book recommendation? I don't know.

I'll want to do it, then when we're starting, I pull away from kisses, cringe at touches, etc. It's awful and not fair to Dave. He said last night, "My only chance to have sex (because we waited for marriage) and my wife hates it." That makes me sad. I don't hate it. I want to do it, but I feel like I can't. I don't enjoy it. It sucks. I can't relax at all.

Anyway, I think I need some reverse brainwashing or something. And when I google it I'm not coming up with anything. Thanks for any guidance.

Kerri

I don't remember off-hand what Church you belong to Kerri, but John Paul II wrote extensively about the "Theology of the Body" which talked about how sex is a gift from God and a sacred bond between a husband and wife. It discusses sex in a very positive and, IMO, healthy light. Christopher West has written quite a bit about Theology of the Body, and the Gift Foundation offers a CD set of his commentary for the cost of shipping. I haven't gotten around to ordering or listening to the CDs, but I have heard many, many good things about it. If you are interested, here is a link to the Gift Foundation page:

Naked Without Shame (http://www.giftfoundation.org/pages/naked_without_shame.htm)

Have you seen this website?

Welcome to The Marriage Bed (http://www.themarriagebed.com)

THere are good articles and a good discussion board as well.

Rebecca

Thanks guys, those are really helpful links.

Kerri

Frederica.com - Writings - - The Real Meaning of Sex (http://www.frederica.com/writings/the-real-meaning-of-sex.html)