OK I am nerveous about posting this because I know some people from my playgroup may be here but here goes

just over a week ago a woman who is a mom of a 3 year old in my playgroup tells me a funny story about what her son said to her after a playgroup one day. Apparently her 3 year old son tells her that Miguel (my son) wants to kill his baby brother, as she prodded him for more information her kid said Miguel wants to kill Finn just like her son wants to kill his little sister.

She laughed and I have freaked out!

Firstly Miguel adores Finn, we have taken great pains to avoid jealousy for Miguel. Miguel has only once made a hit or negitive physical move toward Finn and that is generally when Finn gets ahold of Miguel's toy and is mostly to move him away from the toy

secondly a 3 year old should NOT be talking about anyone wanting to kill anything! much less a 3 year old that I willingly expose my 2 year old to

we dont even kill bugs in my house we take them outside to "fly fly away"

so perhaps its hormones or something but I am considering leaving my playgroup because I am so upset by this.

so what do you mommas think?

julie

I don't think I'd leave the playgroup. I would definately talk to your son about how he feels about Finn. If your really uncomfortable (which it sounds like you are) just don't go to the playgroup until you feel better about it. Sometimes kids just say crazy things.

i'd really talk to M too. does he even get the concept of kill/dead/die. i know cole in just the past few months started to understand it (about bugs atleast). he could have just been copying what the 3 year old was saying.

The thing is Miguel doesnt have the words kill die or the like in his vocabulary much less understand the concept.

Miguel adores Finn... when we took Finn to get the needle removed from his hand and the doctor made Finn cry Miguel shouted at the guy to "leave my blover alone"

Miguel occationally gets possessive about his toys but Finn is Miguel's baby

My concerns are this other person's kid... she never followed up her funny story with a word about discussion with her kid. Miguel is almost 3 and now is the time where other peoples behavior especially other kids behavior will be copied.

Miguel dispite the fact that me makes me nuts, has never bitten, rarely bites, never kicks or screams to get his way.

If this other 3 year old is already started to talk about killing what is next for him to teach my kid?

julie

Originally I thought M said it to the other kid and the mother overheard or her kid told her. It would make me feel funny and if you feel it's really bad to hang out with them then don't go anymore. Follow your instinct. You could try talking to the mom about it how your worried.

This is my least favorite mom of the bunch... the least ap and frankly the least intellegent

I know thats horrible but I just am feeling so off about her kid and her :(

I wouldn't go, personally. I'd be totally freaked out by the mom thinking this was funny...

Cody is 3 almost 4 and for a few months now he talks about killing and dying.
It's bizarre. He doesn't watch TV. He isn't exposed to those things on a day to day basis. But we do reprimand him when he says he gone kill so & so...not harshly..but we say we don't not say things like that to or about other people.

Kids repeat allot of what they hear Victoria tells me/bro/sis she is going to kick my a** once in awhile cause she over heard me say that to dh after he threw cold water on me in the shower not proud she knows it and we tell her it's not nice but the older they get the more they hear. She has also said I'm going to kill you to the big kids, again overheard her brother or sister say it while they were chasing each other about. If you know he really likes his brother then I wouldn't worry too much. As for the other family sounds like you don't know them well enough to know if there is sibling rivalry going on, the whole family is messed up or the kid was just trying to sound big and your boy popped out a me too. My 3yro has just started having playdates and they are never far enough away that I can’t hear what they are saying. Last week Victoria’s little friend said she loved mashed potatoes and Victoria said me too, even though she won’t even let us put them on her plate lol I would pay close attention to the boys the next time they play to get a better feel for the other little boy and then decide if you want to keep on going or not. It’s hard when your little one starts picking things up from the outside world, I was in tears when my ds now 12 learned the word dork lol He came home and called his dad a dork all night, he thought it was hilarious, they both did, I sat there trying to think how we could never have to see his older cousin again lol If he brings it up or maybe you should, I would explain to him how it’s not nice to say those things and talk like that isn’t ok.