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ivycircle
03-03-2006, 12:51 AM
I have always been interested in fostering. I feel like we have so much (not money but love kwim?) We have talked about it for a couple of years and tommorrow; I'm going to see social services! I am so anxious; and have all sorts of questions. Not to mention the horror stories folks love to tell me I want the real truth;How do we schedule training (we homeschool and DH travels alot with his job) How do they choose who to place with whom? We have a three bdrm house and 5 people. (the girls share a room and our son is willing to share) Is that alright? My husband is so wary; I explained as much as I could. How did it work out for you? Would you do it again? How can we help the child feel comfortable? What if we can't handle it?

Thanks mama's,
Angelique

grisandole
03-23-2006, 11:31 PM
You choose what children you take, it's all up to you :) Depending on your state's regulations, room sharing should be fine.....here in AZ, you can have multiple kids in a room, but if one of them is over 6yo you can only have the same gender share a room, younger than 6 can share with opposite gender (this varies from state to state, though).

We've been fostering for almost two years, and have had wonderful and frustrating experiences.

grisandole
03-23-2006, 11:34 PM
If you can't handle it, then you can have the child/ren moved to a different home. I used to think that it was cruel to do that, and foster parents who did were weak and selfish......hahahaha! I learned that not everyone is equipped to deal with behaviors and emotional issues (from the foster kids as well as my own emotions). I learned that I cannot take newborns and infants, as it is too difficult emotionally for me. I learned that even though I am qualified to care for severly emotionally disturbed kids, I don't want one living with us at this time in my life. I learned that I do really well with autistic pre-schoolers. It's all a learning process.