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DragonsChest
02-16-2006, 10:21 AM
Well, the time is almost here. My 18 almost 19 year old son is going away to college this fall. I know he's so ready to leave the nest, in a good way, he's not fleeing us, but I'm feeling conflicted. I want him to go, have a wonderful college experience, I know he's ready, but I'm also a bit jealous that he's going off into the world and I'll be still stuck at home.

I married at 19 and didn't finish college. So sometimes I feel that I missed out on so much by going from my father's house to my husband's house (we've been married 23 years now). *sigh* I'm a bit blue, and jealous green, too.

I'm almost a rainbow! :waving:

ChantingMama
02-16-2006, 08:32 PM
My kids aren't that old yet, but they most likely will be leaving for a school overseas in a couple of years, and I am dreading it, too. I am not ready for them to get on with their lives, that doesn't include me.

I also married straight out of my parents' house, and I missed out on my time out in the world all on my own, too. I sometimes wish I had been able to do that...I wish I had ever had a time when I wasn't obligated to let someone know what I am doing and where I am going every single time I make a move.

Anyway, I just was posting to commiserate with you, lol.

:hug:

DragonsChest
02-17-2006, 07:26 PM
You and I have a lot in common, Chanting Mama. Thanks for the empathy, :hug:

Barb
02-17-2006, 08:39 PM
adding hugs and good thoughts mama.
My dd is only 16 and at this point telling me she's going to get an apartment nearby and work since she's going to cosmetology school while still in highschool and at this point not thinking college.
anyway, sending good thoughts your way

Shannon
02-17-2006, 09:15 PM
:hug:

jeni
03-03-2006, 10:49 PM
My son is in Ottawa, Ontario Canada and I am in Virginia Beach, VA. He is about 1000 miles away and a freshman in college. I miss him terribly. It was much worse in September, but I am feeling better about things with each day. I am not the kind of mom who cried when her kid went off to kindergarten, and I am excited by each new chapter of their lives. For my son, college has been great - allowing him to blossom into the beautiful, smart, and social guy he couldn't be in as a square peg in high school. I am also amazed when I see him finally coming to realize all of what we have taught him, and with the stuff I see that hehas learned on his own. He sent me an e-mail that said "I don't know how you did this with 5 kids!" ( I graduated in 2000 with 5 kids there to watch me.) You know, I have learned so much about what I did right and what I did wrong and that so much of it is really just up to the child - and I realized a lot when he went away. But I really anticipate the summer break!

DragonsChest
03-16-2006, 04:06 PM
I hope I can be as cool about it all as you have been, jeni. I didn't cry at kindergarten, either, but I might tear up at this leave-taking. :eyes:

Kerrilynn62000
03-26-2006, 02:52 AM
We leave 1.5 hours from Ottawa & DH has one of his office's there. Is you Ds in college vs university then? Why there vs closer to home?

Sorry for all the questions :). I have an almost 16 year old & am trying to mentally prepare for her going off to University in the next couple of years or so!!

jeni
03-26-2006, 09:16 PM
My son is at StPaul University. When we sat down to look at colleges and programs on the internet was when he told me he wanted to study theology (and I almost fell out of my chair), and our church's theology specifically. Eastern Christian Theology can only be had as an undergraduate degree there or at one college in the US (in BOston). We didn't know about the one in Boston until later. St Paul had many, many good references from people I know and trust, people were nice when we contacted them about our interest, and it is the exact theology of our church he is studying. I have heard that Ottawa is safer than even small towns here. It would be cheaper now to send him to Boston - not so much our of our pockets, but more debt for him later. This way we have to struggle to pay for this now, but he won't have as much debt later. I have no problem with the questions - ask away!

Suefrog36
03-29-2006, 11:51 PM
I feel for you.:) My oldest is in her third year and my 2nd will be going in the fall also. Just think i get to do it again next year with my 3rd child:)


Sue