Looking for our foster baby - who left in Sept! They dont know where he is!!!! This happened before! I cannot believe this! And now I feel even guiltier than before. We all wish we hadn't let him go. When we were asked if we would adopt we never believed it would happen, we totally believed he would be reunited with his bio-parents by now. Not only is he not with them, but the people responsible for him dont know where he is!!!! ugh. :(

Oh, How terrible. I can't even imagine. Please let me know if you find anything out.

Oh! I'm so terribly sad for your foster son. :(

that's terrible!! i can't imagine how that happens.

Thats awful! How old is he?

Thats awful! How old is he?

he turned 1 last month.

How does an agency lose a baby? That is insane. I am getting tired of hearing these awful DSS stories. I know there must be untold number of good sotires, but it's hard to think good thoughts about a program that frequently 'loses' children.

Wow. Just, wow.

It is insane! I cant understand, dont they keep all this info in a computer? Doesnt the Worker know what family she gave him to after she picked him up from my house? Hopefully they have figured it all out by now. I wish I could call & find out, but we aren't entitled to any info. :(

I am so sorry mama :hug: I just don't understnad though hwo you Loose a baby? its not like this is a child who rean away.
do they really mean to say they have no idea where they put this child?

Please keep us posted, you will be in my thoughts and prayers

How does an agency lose a baby? That is insane. I am getting tired of hearing these awful DSS stories. I know there must be untold number of good sotires, but it's hard to think good thoughts about a program that frequently 'loses' children.


How they lose a child?

Lemme tell ya. Sarah was placed with us when she ran away while we no longer had a foster license or even fingerprints on file. She was an "off the books" placement for 3 months!!!I forced them to make it official. HAd she ran form our house...she woulda been lost without a trace.

Also, I still have her passport, and she is no longer with us again...and if I wanted to she could call me, I could meet up with her and take her out of the country. I have her passport, after all. Careless oversight by DSS. I took her with their permission to Holland last year and no one at the airport ever asked for permission letters or anything. So...even though I could run off with her...I never would...but man, do you see how you can just lose a kid?

That's how. Off the books placements. People who leave with a kid because they..can!!!

How they lose a child?

Lemme tell ya. Sarah was placed with us when she ran away while we no longer had a foster license or even fingerprints on file. She was an "off the books" placement for 3 months!!!I forced them to make it official. HAd she ran form our house...she woulda been lost without a trace.

Also, I still have her passport, and she is no longer with us again...and if I wanted to she could call me, I could meet up with her and take her out of the country. I have her passport, after all. Careless oversight by DSS. I took her with their permission to Holland last year and no one at the airport ever asked for permission letters or anything. So...even though I could run off with her...I never would...but man, do you see how you can just lose a kid?

That's how. Off the books placements. People who leave with a kid because they..can!!!

Crazy, crazy itshay.

OTOH, I wish DSS would lose a baby on *my* doorstep.

the state of tennesse called us 16 months after finalizing DS's adoption to set a court date to finalize. I had to fax them the paperwork to prove we already had, they had no record of it in his file.

the state of tennesse called us 16 months after finalizing DS's adoption to set a court date to finalize. I had to fax them the paperwork to prove we already had, they had no record of it in his file.


OMFG.

So do you folks w/exp suggest ever dealing with DSS?

I aks because dh and I have considered foster parenting. I haven't done it yet because I am helping my sister with her baby while she works.

I think I could be a good foster parent, but the horror stories scare me. If I were to adopt, I would go to the agency which placed my dd, and when I think about fostering, it's apart from adoption. I think of fostering as helping a family in bad times. Is that naive?

Fostering seems very dangerous. Things go wrong etc.

Is it actually safe to foster?

We foster :) I was leary as well, but once I found my agency, all my fears were alleviated. Depending on where you live, there are private agencies (many are non-profit) that are contracted by DSS to licence foster families......this way, you have a "buffer" between you and CPS, you and the caseworkers. I find this an ideal setup. We are with Catholic Social Service (you don't need to be Catholic...or religous) and have been happy with them.

Things can go wrong, but you learn how to prevent them and protect yourself. Part of our training consisted of learning those skills.

Check out the fourms at www.fosterparents.com there is a ton of good info there!

Good luck!

We foster :) I was leary as well, but once I found my agency, all my fears were alleviated. Depending on where you live, there are private agencies (many are non-profit) that are contracted by DSS to licence foster families......this way, you have a "buffer" between you and CPS, you and the caseworkers. I find this an ideal setup. We are with Catholic Social Service (you don't need to be Catholic...or religous) and have been happy with them.

Things can go wrong, but you learn how to prevent them and protect yourself. Part of our training consisted of learning those skills.

Check out the fourms at www.fosterparents.com there is a ton of good info there!

Good luck!

Thank you! It's always good for me to read the positive. I know there are more children to come in my life--I am just not quite sure how we will meet.

oh how horrible anne marie :( That's got to be so hard for you. Have you heard anything mre?

oh how horrible anne marie :( That's got to be so hard for you. Have you heard anything mre?


We probably wont ever know anything - we dont have any rights to info. We tried asking our worker in the past, but the agency gets no info either as he was placed with his sister's grandparents who are non-agency.

:(

So, the state would have allowed you to adopt him if you were willing?

edited because I just dont feel comfortable putting certain info out there :)

edited because I just dont feel comfortable putting certain info out there :)

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to pry. :smooch:

I'm sorry, I didn't mean to pry. :smooch:

LOL I dont mind telling YOU, just not the whole world ;)
Did you see the post while it was up? If not I can PM ya. :)

LOL I dont mind telling YOU, just not the whole world ;)
Did you see the post while it was up? If not I can PM ya. :)

I understand. No, I didn't see the post. :hug: