Anyone here....here....here.....?

Im here...here...here!

*giggles*

I have 20 month old twins (boy/girl set) How 'bout you?

lol I haven't check in in AGES.

But I'm here!

My guys are almost 3.5!! :drop: Where does the time go?

Hello? hello? hello?

I'd post here if I knew other twin mommies would answer me. My twins are...um...I'm not sure how old. Is this bad? I've forgotten. Just another thing to go from my memory bank - like when my kids had a bath last and so then I mke them take one and then realize that they had just had one.

So, since someone may actuqlly be readingf this... here is my question.

Do you feel that you are even-handed with your love and care for both of your twins, or does one twin get more attention? My twins, I think, don't quite get equal time. Gedalya is much more high needs than Tehila - so I'm always holding and nursing him and when he is upset he really, really lets us know. She is much more complacent - so I find myself putting her down to pick him up. I'm feeling so guilty.

Hello!

I worried a lot about the same kind of stuff, espeically since, like you, I had two very different babies. Daniel let us know exactly how he was feeling - he would go from happy to LOUD crying in seconds flat. He demanded to cosleep, demanded to be held, etc. That's just how he was. He is still pretty high need, but at least we know what's going on with him.
Abby, on the other hand, was usually OK with playing, etc. She had colic, though, and nighttime gas issues for almost 1.5 years until the Mylicon drops finally worked for her.

I have talked to a lot of other twin moms about this on other boards, including an AP one, and the basic concensus is that as long as you are doing your best to meet the needs presented to you, then it's OK. after all, if they were born separately you'd give each the attention they need and not compare.

I'm so glad to see you all :)

My girls are 3 months old so I'm pretty new to the twin thing. I have 2 older boys also, so I sort of know what I'm doing, but with 2, it seems all bets are off.

I'm in no position to offer advice, I wish I could. I'm still trying to figure out the ropes.

Hope to talk more soon :)

Hippymom, when were your girls born? My twins were born on Sept 1

Hi Tikva,

I had to giggle when I saw your family pic... I had 3 boys before having my twins too (and I have a boy/girl set just like you)! Fun stuff!


Do you feel that you are even-handed with your love and care for both of your twins, or does one twin get more attention?

To answer your question... yes and no. bad answer hugh!? ;) Seems like our girl gets a bit more attention as the girl experience is new and she is much more high needs than our boy who is VERY easy going, joyful, and low maintenanced. However... our love for them is equal & I think we share attention rather well in general. I dont think either of them have jealosy issues and know we love them equally.

HTH'ed!
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I've found that mine trade off. One will go through a period where s/he's needier and then the other will take a turn. It evens out.