Hey Mamas,

I'm faced with a situation and I need some words of wisdom from some experienced mamas. We have DD who will be 4 in July. We are in the process of adopting another child/ren. Now here's the situation:

We have the option of adopting 2 infants the same age so they would be "twins" OR adopting 2 babies 10 - 12 mo apart. (We want to adopt 2 more, but have a time limit to do so, so waiting 2 - 3 years between babies is not an option.)

So what do you think? Would adopting 2 infants the same age be suicide? They would be about 6 months old when we brought them home. What about problems I'd encounter? The benefits of 2 the same age?

Thanks for your input Mamas,
Sandra

Both options have pros and cons - I've had children close in age and twins. The first few months are a LOT harder with twins - but you would be coming in after that. Benefits are similar schedules with twins vs a 10 month older baby probably would nap less and at a different time but advantage to that is one on one time with each. So much also depends on the individual child.

There is someone on twinstuff.com (forgot the username) that has "twins" where the birthdates are 2 weeks apart one is her biological and one is adopted. It might be worth going over there and posting this question in the parents forum. There is also a mom over there that adopted twins.

Both are do-able - but I won't kid you here - both are a LOT of work! I've had 3 children close in age before AND also had infant twins with older children. I wouldn't say either would be "suicide". I would probably go for the "twins" myself just because it's fun to dress up "twins" ;) Also I find that with my twins at 1 year old now - it's easier having them than it was when I had a 1 year old and 2 year old because they ARE on the same schedule. It's just the initial sleep deprivation that is harder. Plus my understanding is that the younger the baby is - the better they are going to adjust to being with you vs adopting an older baby/toddler/child. 2 6 month olds will never have a memory of anyone but you, your dd and each other.

I can't really add anything else cheryl nailed it. I can say that I would go for the twins for all the same reasons. Much luck to you.:D

Well, I am not going to add anything different than Cheryl and Pam. :p I would go for the twin babies. Yes, it's a lot of work, but as time goes by, you see the bond, and that is priceless. All of my best to you, whichever you decide. :heart: :thumbsup:

How exciting!

I'd go for the twins too. I have twins who are nearly three.

I also babysit girl who is 9 months younger than my boys daily. Although she is "almost" the same age as my boys there are several things that she can't do but my boys can because they ARE nearly a year apart in age.

I think the twins would be easier- now I am in the middle of potty training and some days I *think* it is not easier ;) but overall it really is!

What a neat thing you are doing though.

Tawnya

I can only tell you that having twins has been such a positive experience for me.

Tawnya, as for your boys potty training, I promise you it will happen. My first son was a breeze, just woke up one morning and said he was done with dipes and seriously was out of them in less than a week, even at night. The twins took a bit longer. One of my favorite pics is of the two of them huddled next to each other in the bathroom. Josh had said he needed to go and Sam agreed he had to as well, so they went together.

Originally posted by ssmeest
Hey Mamas,

I'm faced with a situation and I need some words of wisdom from some experienced mamas. We have DD who will be 4 in July. We are in the process of adopting another child/ren. Now here's the situation:

We have the option of adopting 2 infants the same age so they would be "twins" OR adopting 2 babies 10 - 12 mo apart. (We want to adopt 2 more, but have a time limit to do so, so waiting 2 - 3 years between babies is not an option.)

So what do you think? Would adopting 2 infants the same age be suicide? They would be about 6 months old when we brought them home. What about problems I'd encounter? The benefits of 2 the same age?

Thanks for your input Mamas,
Sandra

Sorry I don't usually post in the market..but your title caught my eye. Maybe you've seen my other posts and if not ..I'm a 35 yr old mom to soon to be 15 kids...(Due again in about 6 wks). I have twins that are 10 mos old ..boy/girl..*Pic in my sig*. Anwyay, right now I have 7 boys and 7 girls..this ones a girl, (so 8 girls). They are all my birth children, but I thought I'd be able to offer a little bit of insight. The twins are the hardest of them all to take care of when it comes to taking care of any of the babies..you do everything x's 2..but, it gets a little easier as they get older, (except now their crawling in 2 diff directions, lol). I also have a 2 yr old a 3 yr old 4 yr old, 6 yr old, 7 yr old, 9, 12, 13, 14, 15, 17 and 18 yr old..plus the twins and the new baby coming soon. I'm not catholic, Amish or anything else really..just wanted a lot of kids, * I said I would have 12..but I've outdid myself*. Its just my husband and I, w/out any help..ppl don't like to visit, lol. So from day one...I take care of them all day...I normally work 2nd shift...and then get up all thru the nite w/ the twins, (they still don't sleep thru the nite), neither does my 2 or 3 yr old, but their easier to deal w/ at 2am. Its the hardest thing I've ever done! If theres one thing I've learned is that I only have 2 hands, and to just take everything *One minute at a time*!! and you could do it, if you think of it like that. Always remember your human, although somedays you won't feel like it, when your dying to take a shower or use the bathroom by yourself. And last but not least...If someone offers help....take them up on it, I did have some ppl make some meals for us that I could just throw in the oven for the first few wks the twins came home, but if you get overwhelmed and you've got someone to ask......ask for help!! It doesnt make you a lesser mom. I think I was meant to have all these kids for a reason..**this is my last!!*** And if you've got this kind of opportunity, you must be meant to have them for a reason too! If you ever want to email me feel free. This was just my opinion, but you'll see what I mean. sorry so long.

Just wanted to say Adria your babes are gorgeous.

Thanks Pam. :heart:

I'd go for the same age! My daughter was 15 months old when the twins were born and it was sooo hard for her. Yes, the twins were alot of work, but you could sleep when they slept, hold them, feed together. That year difference could prove huge! They will be starting to toddle around, take things away, run the other direction, etc... To have 2 doing the same was much easier for us... Plus it's so fun to have 2 to dress up alike and you get so many comments...expecially in a big family!