I'm writing for my SIL who's DH is disabled in such a way that it is
hard for him to go from a seated to standing position, walk up
stairs, etc. He cannot stand and hold their almost 2 year old and
must be sitting to interact with her for any length of time. My SIL
knew this would present unique challenges and frustrations.....but
now, this is really coming to light. She is, by far, the "main"
parent and this has worked reasonably well.....but lately, as she is
trying to correct a behavior...her DH will say to their
DD...."awwww, honey, come to Daddy....." He will also ignore
behaviors that should be dealt with, because it would involve him
getting up (which takes a greater effort than for most people). SIL
is very very frustrated...

What tactics/tools could a parent, disabled in such a way as I
described above, use to effectively discipline and/or change wrong
behaviors in a GB way?? Their DD is the type of child who really
hates being restrained in any way. If you surprise her with a
hug...she will tense, until she realizes who you are, does not like
the car seat, etc. YKWIM???

Any and all situations will be greatly appreciated by SIL who is at
her wits end....on one hand, she sympathizes with his disability and
feels badly when she gets on his case about not doing more.....on
the other, it is apparent he uses it as a crutch sometimes.

Thanks mamas!

Lisa

I cannot know how this will work, but it's a thought...

He could do the "Aw honey" thing, then when she's with him, just remind her we do not do... It works well with some 2 year olds, but would not have worked with my own DS, so I do not know.

Being disabled is a challenge. My mom was and her main two discipline tools were screaming and beating. I grew up totally afraid of her. SO, I hope their family is able to work it out.