I just checked out this video from the library. It is about positive discipline. It as a very basic easy to use program, but the video was excellent (now it was made in the early 80s) but still just as good. Here is a link to the website I just found about it.
http://www.parentmagic.com/parentingsolutions-view.cfm
I just had to share this with all of you because I liked it and I think it will work!

I read the book. I implemented a few of the principles but some of it just seemed too harsh to me. It's been a while, so I don't remember what exactly.

I'm with Adria. :)

I do count to three, but the end result is NOT a time-out. Generally it just means "get yourself together or we will have to stop what we are doing."

Timeouts are not "positive" discipline, IMO, but I suppose they are more positive than spanking, which is what the book is againt.

Michelle