As of the last few weeks DD has become bit of a "cry baby" I can tell her "You have to wait a minute, and then mommy can give you (fill in the blank)." And she goes off. I can be talking to someone else and tell them "no" or show signs that I am upset and she goes off. I know that toddlers have no sense of what patience is, but I'm dying here. She doesn't wait to be nursed when asked to, she is so sassy (she back talks me ALL the time...tells me I'm a bad mommy, etc.), and the only way that I can get her to obey me is if I ask her a million times and then I count down from 5. She knows that if she doesn't do what I ask by the time I get to 0, she has to go to timeout.

I am tired of having to threaten her, but how can I get her to listen??

Please someone give me some advice, I have been a crying mess over this. Does she need to be in the sling more? Do I need to spend more 1 on 1 time with her? :confused:

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(((hugs))) My twins are 2.5, and I COMPLETELY understand!

My suggestions:

Go to askdrsears.com for some tips, but here's my 2 cents:

Don't ask her a million times. Ask once, then tell once while also telling her the consequence of not listening, then do it. Period. Try to make the punishment fit the crime - for some kids time-out means nothing (my dd couldn't care less), while for others they don't like it (my ds). Tell her the time-out is for her to think about how she needs to listen to you. Or take away a toy she's playing with, make her wait to nurse until you are done with what you need to do, etc.

If she says something mean to you, don't respond except to say "I will not talk to/play with someone who tlaks to me that way." Tell when she's ready to speak nicely that you'll talk/play with her again. End of discussion.

The hardest part about these things are having to get through the "breaking-in" period where she comes to realize that you mean it. and you MUST do these EVERY time. If you don't she will know she can succeed sometimes by being persistent and it will only continue.

Good luck!