MomOfHeathens
10-20-2004, 01:15 PM
and I hope I don't upset anyone because that honestly is NOT my intent.
I happened to run across the thread where Christine/Selahmom vented and it kind of upset me for several reasons and I hope no one minds me expressing them.
Because I know Christine I understand what she was saying and didn't take offense to it. I DO know though that it's hard if you don't know someone to know what they are thinking or feeling or how they are "saying" things on here. She and I have talked about how sad it is that some of the most touching posts go unanswered or barely answered at times. When we talked it had nothing to do with me or what is going on with me either btw. I know my feelings were how sad it was for OTHER people and in no way did I honestly care on my own recent threads. For her I understand because she has such a good heart and is wanting to help a friend and it's frustrating thinking no one cares. Christine is truly a wonderful person in case you are wondering. Well worth getting to know like alot of people here are.
Having said that, I also understand alot of what some of the rest of you posted. There have been many times I've wanted to post to a thread and decided not to because I felt what I was going to say just wasn't enough. I felt like just saying I was thinking of someone wouldn't be good enough or just giving them a cyberhug would be corny and thought as such. Other times I too have missed threads until months later and then wondered if the person even wanted me to respond anymore.
On the subject of some things I've heard lately. I've heard some friends have been trying to organize things to make me feel better. I think that is wonderful and I feel so blessed to have such good friends but I also want to make MY feelings known on these things.
I'm rarely ever able to send anyone something when other people start threads so I don't expect people to jump at the chance to send anything to me either. Alot of people here don't know me or don't even know I exist so I would never expect them to go out of their way to do anything. I'm not the kind of person that expects others to do things for me.
Anyone who has sent or is sending me something- I want to say thank you because you don't HAVE to do that. You don't know me yet you care enough to try to brighten a rough patch in my life right now. You are a wonderful person and your gift is very much appreciated and loved no matter what.
Anyone who has sent me an email or PM- thank you. Again, you don't HAVE to ask me how I'm doing. It brings a smile to my face everytime I see a new email or message and that means just as much as a gift does. Honestly.
Anyone who has responded to the recent threads about/to me- Please don't EVER feel that posting to a person's thread isn't good enough or doing enough. I can only speak for myself but seeing all those replies and people saying they are thinking of me and my children and praying for us... you have no idea how touching that truly is. I appreciate it more than you know. I know one mama recently posted a thread about how sorry she is that she can't send to anything right now and she has to choose to care for her family first even though it hurts her to say no to people. WOW, I hope I'm not the only one who thinks that 1- it's sad she even feels she has to explain something like that and 2- she has shown what a wonderful person she is just by the fact that it actually bothers her that she has to choose. Amazing mama...truly.
I would like to ask a favor of the members here even though I know it's asking for alot. I'm going to try anyway though because I'm stubborn like that. ;)
PLEASE if someone is having a hard time in their lives take the time to post even a smilie hug (I'm telling myself to do all this as well because I'm bad at this too!) to their thread. It's NOT corny or too little. It lets the person know that someone read and cares about their post. You don't have to say much or anything at all... that's not what it's about. Just let them know you were there.
PLEASE stop bickering about the really stupid things. Life's too short to argue with people you don't even know and will never meet in real life. I see all these mamas here making remarks at each other and arguing and I can't help but wonder WHY. I mean hey, I KNOW it's a great stress release at times but the other person isn't going to listen to you, they're not going to care what you have to say, and it just makes everyone who's not a part of it not want to read any of the other posts. LOL. I know I head for the hills anytime I see a fight going on here and try not to come back until things cool down. There are some people here that when they post I grate my teeth and just want to scream but I know there's no sense in it. Just makes me look bad and it makes it REALLY hard to get in on any of the darn cliques around here I swear! ;) j/k. I know this one won't happen but hey, I had to try.
I guess I'm just saying that if the choice is crapping rainbows or spewing verbal diarrhea well I know I'd rather have the colorful rainbow crap. LMAO. :D
And lastly, again I can only speak for myself (and plan on taking my own advice here) but for anyone who feels they can't afford to do anything or what they CAN afford isn't good enough- sending someone just a letter, a card, or something your kids made is JUST AS GOOD as a gift basket someone else might send. It's the heart that matters not the tag attached to it. I for one get teary-eyed over just getting ANY mail that isn't a bill. :joker:
I plan on trying harder to answer other people's posts when they need a hug even if it is just to hit that hug smilie. I plan on sending out more cards even if I have to print them off the computer and color them (and believe me, I STINK at coloring in the lines *snicker*) just so someone else knows someone is thinking of them, and I plan on worrying less about whether or not I fit into any certain board here just because I can't do, make, discuss, or creat as well as someone else. Life's too short and I've found that out recently.
Let's welcome ALL babies, give love to EVERYONE who needs it, and share LOTS of laughs. It takes so little of our online time and is much more important than some of the junk we post and wade through daily.
Oh and if anyone has a mean or crappy reply. :p That's my response. LMAO.
And if ANYONE at MD changes my siggy to make fun of me being mushy I'm coming after you with a vengeance! I'm a mean amazon! *puffing up* Quit laughing! I am! Really!
Wankers! :p
Much Love Everyone
I happened to run across the thread where Christine/Selahmom vented and it kind of upset me for several reasons and I hope no one minds me expressing them.
Because I know Christine I understand what she was saying and didn't take offense to it. I DO know though that it's hard if you don't know someone to know what they are thinking or feeling or how they are "saying" things on here. She and I have talked about how sad it is that some of the most touching posts go unanswered or barely answered at times. When we talked it had nothing to do with me or what is going on with me either btw. I know my feelings were how sad it was for OTHER people and in no way did I honestly care on my own recent threads. For her I understand because she has such a good heart and is wanting to help a friend and it's frustrating thinking no one cares. Christine is truly a wonderful person in case you are wondering. Well worth getting to know like alot of people here are.
Having said that, I also understand alot of what some of the rest of you posted. There have been many times I've wanted to post to a thread and decided not to because I felt what I was going to say just wasn't enough. I felt like just saying I was thinking of someone wouldn't be good enough or just giving them a cyberhug would be corny and thought as such. Other times I too have missed threads until months later and then wondered if the person even wanted me to respond anymore.
On the subject of some things I've heard lately. I've heard some friends have been trying to organize things to make me feel better. I think that is wonderful and I feel so blessed to have such good friends but I also want to make MY feelings known on these things.
I'm rarely ever able to send anyone something when other people start threads so I don't expect people to jump at the chance to send anything to me either. Alot of people here don't know me or don't even know I exist so I would never expect them to go out of their way to do anything. I'm not the kind of person that expects others to do things for me.
Anyone who has sent or is sending me something- I want to say thank you because you don't HAVE to do that. You don't know me yet you care enough to try to brighten a rough patch in my life right now. You are a wonderful person and your gift is very much appreciated and loved no matter what.
Anyone who has sent me an email or PM- thank you. Again, you don't HAVE to ask me how I'm doing. It brings a smile to my face everytime I see a new email or message and that means just as much as a gift does. Honestly.
Anyone who has responded to the recent threads about/to me- Please don't EVER feel that posting to a person's thread isn't good enough or doing enough. I can only speak for myself but seeing all those replies and people saying they are thinking of me and my children and praying for us... you have no idea how touching that truly is. I appreciate it more than you know. I know one mama recently posted a thread about how sorry she is that she can't send to anything right now and she has to choose to care for her family first even though it hurts her to say no to people. WOW, I hope I'm not the only one who thinks that 1- it's sad she even feels she has to explain something like that and 2- she has shown what a wonderful person she is just by the fact that it actually bothers her that she has to choose. Amazing mama...truly.
I would like to ask a favor of the members here even though I know it's asking for alot. I'm going to try anyway though because I'm stubborn like that. ;)
PLEASE if someone is having a hard time in their lives take the time to post even a smilie hug (I'm telling myself to do all this as well because I'm bad at this too!) to their thread. It's NOT corny or too little. It lets the person know that someone read and cares about their post. You don't have to say much or anything at all... that's not what it's about. Just let them know you were there.
PLEASE stop bickering about the really stupid things. Life's too short to argue with people you don't even know and will never meet in real life. I see all these mamas here making remarks at each other and arguing and I can't help but wonder WHY. I mean hey, I KNOW it's a great stress release at times but the other person isn't going to listen to you, they're not going to care what you have to say, and it just makes everyone who's not a part of it not want to read any of the other posts. LOL. I know I head for the hills anytime I see a fight going on here and try not to come back until things cool down. There are some people here that when they post I grate my teeth and just want to scream but I know there's no sense in it. Just makes me look bad and it makes it REALLY hard to get in on any of the darn cliques around here I swear! ;) j/k. I know this one won't happen but hey, I had to try.
I guess I'm just saying that if the choice is crapping rainbows or spewing verbal diarrhea well I know I'd rather have the colorful rainbow crap. LMAO. :D
And lastly, again I can only speak for myself (and plan on taking my own advice here) but for anyone who feels they can't afford to do anything or what they CAN afford isn't good enough- sending someone just a letter, a card, or something your kids made is JUST AS GOOD as a gift basket someone else might send. It's the heart that matters not the tag attached to it. I for one get teary-eyed over just getting ANY mail that isn't a bill. :joker:
I plan on trying harder to answer other people's posts when they need a hug even if it is just to hit that hug smilie. I plan on sending out more cards even if I have to print them off the computer and color them (and believe me, I STINK at coloring in the lines *snicker*) just so someone else knows someone is thinking of them, and I plan on worrying less about whether or not I fit into any certain board here just because I can't do, make, discuss, or creat as well as someone else. Life's too short and I've found that out recently.
Let's welcome ALL babies, give love to EVERYONE who needs it, and share LOTS of laughs. It takes so little of our online time and is much more important than some of the junk we post and wade through daily.
Oh and if anyone has a mean or crappy reply. :p That's my response. LMAO.
And if ANYONE at MD changes my siggy to make fun of me being mushy I'm coming after you with a vengeance! I'm a mean amazon! *puffing up* Quit laughing! I am! Really!
Wankers! :p
Much Love Everyone