where the couple gets a divorce? I am going through my photos of weddings of friends and family and I am really unsure what to do with the wedding photos?

What would you do?

LOL I was wondering the same thing. My best friend got married a few years back and I wanted to scrap the pics from that, but then they got divorced, so I don't know what to do with the pictures now! hmmmmmmm

I think that they are all memories .. and weither good or bad it is like a lesson ... i say keep the pics and use them in a scrapbook .. my mom still has her wedding book to my step father and they are now divorced .. she has the pictures because there are a LOT of relatives and friends that she had not seen in a long time and after that she lost contact with or they passed away.. so those pictures are links to those people..

Yes, I agree with QT, I think you should scrap them. That was a part of your life too. If they might make her uncomfortable maybe just warn her ahead of time lol?

I think I may scrap some of the photos from my friends wedding but I don't feel comfortable doing that with my brothers wedding.

His first marriage/divorce was not very nice and now he is remarried and has a child. Also I know that it would really enrage his second wife and she would make his life miserable if she ever saw them.

I pulled some of the family photos from my brothers first wedding and I will probably store the rest for a while.

Thanks

You could always use a little 6X4 album and make a nice little album with pictures in there for things you do not feel comfortable putting in your main scrapbook .. that way you could still keep the pictures nice and put in information about the time .. but not let any one feel bad when they open your scrapbook to look through it



It is your scrapbook correct? It makes me a little peeved to think that your SIL could give your bro a hard time because of something in your scrapbook. Makes it sound like the relationship is a little tense :( .


Kevin has a partial scrapbook and a lot of old pictures .. hes got pics of his EX wife and the girls and old friends ( which UHM well they aren't friends any more ) I don't mind that he has that I think that its Special.. its really nice to have those memories... and for the girls thats special .. I really need to go through and re do his album because its starting to fall apart and the pictures are starting to get damaged .. and the pictures at his moms that do not have i home i really need to go though and make albums for them.

Originally posted by qtkitty
You could always use a little 6X4 album and make a nice little album with pictures in there for things you do not feel comfortable putting in your main scrapbook .. that way you could still keep the pictures nice and put in information about the time .. but not let any one feel bad when they open your scrapbook to look through it



It is your scrapbook correct? It makes me a little peeved to think that your SIL could give your bro a hard time because of something in your scrapbook. Makes it sound like the relationship is a little tense :( .


Kevin has a partial scrapbook and a lot of old pictures .. hes got pics of his EX wife and the girls and old friends ( which UHM well they aren't friends any more ) I don't mind that he has that I think that its Special.. its really nice to have those memories... and for the girls thats special .. I really need to go through and re do his album because its starting to fall apart and the pictures are starting to get damaged .. and the pictures at his moms that do not have i home i really need to go though and make albums for them.

Well my brothers wife (they are currently separated) doesn't really care for me or my mother. She usually uses whatever excuse she can to make my brother miserable and hurt my parents. So, yeah, the situation is a little tense to say the least. Dh told me to throw the photos away and I ended up pulling out a few and tossing the rest. :o (Ducking here!) I know my mom still has her photos and I just can't imagine that anyone else in the family (me included) really wants the memory of what the marriage was like (not very happy).

So anyway. I pulled out some of them for that wedding. I kept all the ones from my best friends wedding but they may not all go in a scrapbook. I keep extra photos that don't necessarily get scrapped so some of those may go in with those in storage.

The thing is I am doing an album with all the weddings dh and I have been at/in so that is why this is coming up now.

BTW we weren't even invited to my brothers second wedding (neither were my parents) so things are touchy there.

I feel sorry for my brother and he has a son. I am getting ready to pull out copies of all my photos of his son and using them to put togther a scrapbook for him so he will have photos of his ds because I doubt that his wife will give him any.

That is so sad ... is the son from the first marrage?

Sometimes i think that people who marry others shouldn't even bother *LOL*. I think i would be a little pissed if Kevin acted like my mom and grandparents were terrible and did not want to talk to them, because they are good people even though they are annoying. I still love them no matter what they do.

anyways back into scrapbooking .. i think that that is a nice way to organize the albums by type of events instead of by date. I like that.

I have a similar problem. My cousin Jessie has been married twice - her first husband died almost 3 years ago, just 5 months after they got married. They have a child together who is about 6 years old. I have some good photos from that wedding but I don't know what to do with them. It almost feels wrong to scrap those photos. I feel like I'd need to journal something about his death but then that would make the pages very depressing. I was a bridesmaid in that wedding so I would like to do something with the photos, I just don't know what. She remarried last December (I posted a page from that wedding in my other post) and they had a child in May. Any suggestions?

Christina

First the son is from the second (current) marriage. And it is just a touchy situation! I think because the first marriage didn't have any children I don't feel as bad getting rid of the photos.

Christina, if I had your situation, I would certainly scrap those wedding photos and keep them for the child. They may want those when they get older. I would scrap them and then put them away where they wouldn't necessarily be a sad reminder but you would still have them.

Originally posted by Robin
First the son is from the second (current) marriage. And it is just a touchy situation! I think because the first marriage didn't have any children I don't feel as bad getting rid of the photos.

Christina, if I had your situation, I would certainly scrap those wedding photos and keep them for the child. They may want those when they get older. I would scrap them and then put them away where they wouldn't necessarily be a sad reminder but you would still have them.

I wasn't very clear when I posted. LOL The son is from her first marriage and now she has a daughter from the second marriage. My cousin was with her first husband from about 1996 or 1997 until he died in 2001. They were only married for 5 months though. He was murdered and it was very very painful for her. She lives about 3 hours from me so she wouldn't see my scrapbook unless I showed her when she was here (not often) but I wouldn't want to bring up sad memories for her.

Anyway, I think I will do a couple of pages with the photos I have. I'd much rather remember the happy times and it was a big event in my life.

Christina

Christina, I think that I confused you. I was responding the the post about my brothers son. My nephew is from my brothers second wedding. That was what my first paragraph was about. Sorry I should have used the quote feature and I was lazy.

If it was a happy time then I would certainly scrap them. Since they do have a child then I would definitely do something because like I said I think that one day the child may want to see the photos.

Originally posted by Robin
Christina, I think that I confused you. I was responding the the post about my brothers son. My nephew is from my brothers second wedding. That was what my first paragraph was about. Sorry I should have used the quote feature and I was lazy.

If it was a happy time then I would certainly scrap them. Since they do have a child then I would definitely do something because like I said I think that one day the child may want to see the photos.

Ah, ok. LOL

Christina

For those marriages that ended horribly. I keep seeing the pictures cut in half, with the paper shaper scissors. That is probably horrible, but you could always put it in an album that no one saw.
To be more clear. Cut in half and on the same page. Does that make sense?

she was scrapbooking for someone else.

She wrote witty/touching captions like:

'Once upon a time....
a man and woman fell in love and
embarked on the sacred journey of marriage......a journey which
was to fill their lives with a joy and contentment realized by few human beings....

This - is not the couple

At first - all seemed too good to be true

parties with friends.....

parties into all hours of the night

But the honeymoon soon ended and trouble started brewing

they began to ........ (humorous story about how they both drifted apart)



HTH

Well I finished my wedding album that is of our friends weddings. I ended up doing a spread on my girlfriends wedding. I only used pictures of us (the girls) except for one picture of her and ex dh who is in the photo with my and dh and G. I just hated to not scrap it because it is apart of our story too.

As for my brother's wedding, I don't have the heart to scrap it way too many hard feelings involved. Although I did keep some of the photos of our family from the wedding.

The really bad thing is that ex sil was one of the servers at our wedding and she is the one they put in the middle of the photo of our servers. There is no way I could crop her out unless I got really creative with photo editing software. HMMMM, that is an idea I will have to think about.

Mari, I love the idea of the witty comments that would be a great way to deal with a situation like this.