this is a little silly but my birthday is wrong.
when I go to my profile to fix it it has the right date, but my profile has the wrong one?

That appears to be a bug in the system... I checked around, and apparently anyone born before 1970 has their profile say the same as yours, regarding birthdate. But if you look at the calendar, the birthdays are on the correct day. I'll try to remember to talk with Amity about it and ask if there's a bug fix for that.

thanks!