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doubleblessed · 08-23-2005, 01:58 PM

My kids are dry during the day but at nights, have accidents even if I wake them up in the middle of the night to go pee. What do you use? Keep in mind, I have TWO beds to change daily, lol... and I only have one mattress pad each bed. I wonder if there is something I can buy that can go over the sheet somehow and easy to replace ~ sometimes, kids go to sleep on our bed AFTER they have accidents and then have accidents ON our bed! LOL!

So can you keep this mama sane?

freedomlover · 08-23-2005, 02:02 PM

You could try using a vinyl table cloth between two sheets and just pull the top one off (and the table cloth) when there is one so you have less to do on those days OR

You could have the kids wear pull ups `night time type something' (if it is often)

Hopefully they will grow out of it someday soon.

doubleblessed · 08-23-2005, 02:07 PM

Forgot to mention... they refuse to wear Pull-ups! LOL! They say they're big kids and yada yada... you know how they are

Accidents ~ usually every night for both kids... but just one accident. Never thought of the vinyl tablecloth ~ will it be uncomfortable? But still a smart idea!

meemee · 08-23-2005, 02:23 PM

I made DD a really large PUL mat and on top of that lay a flannel-topped piece of burly knit terry. I didn't sew the PUL to the "soaker" because I wanted it to last and to not take forever to dry. My dd is a 6yo and a very heavy night wetter, so even if she wore pullups, we get leaks. *sigh* just not at the point to take meds from the urologist for it...yet~LOL I know how frustrating it is!

harvestgirl · 08-23-2005, 02:26 PM

honestly? lol ~ i'd tell them they aren't big kids & they need to wear them at night only b/c it's hard for mama to change the sheets so often, etc...

willa pees at night & i was just using a sposie on her, but she would ask
why do i still wear diapres?" & that made me feel bad...so we got her some pull ups which we call night time underwear & she is thrilled.

SweetnSour · 08-23-2005, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by harvestgirl

honestly? lol ~ i'd tell them they aren't big kids & they need to wear them at night only b/c it's hard for mama to change the sheets so often, etc...

Yep.
I told Vidura, ok, if you're big then you can get up, take the sheet off, put a new one on and do the laundry in the morning. On the third day he asked for pullups, lol.

beanandpumpkin · 08-23-2005, 02:41 PM

Justin is another "big kid" who wears a diaper to bed. Pullups just weren't holding all of his pee, and I was changing the sheets daily. We were just saying today (dh and I) that we should try those Goodnites, so that he can put it on himself. We called Pullups "nighttime underpants", and I felt bad putting him back in a diaper, but he just pees too much for pullups.

When is it not "within normal limits" for them to wet the bed nightly? He has NEVER had a dry night. He's 4 1/2.

meemee · 08-23-2005, 02:48 PM

He's still way within "normal" limits, Michelle.
IIRC, my uro doesn't get concerned with boys until 9, and girls until 6-7. Right now she is having me wake Caelyn between 10-12pm (when I'm going to bed) and have her potty then, no drinks after 6pm also (hard for her). Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. Because she's 6 and not always helped by night waking, she wants to try meds. I want to give her a bit longer.
My older 2 were night-dry by 2 and 3 respectively, so it is easy for me to get feelings of annoyance w/ this. I don't want to upset her, so that's why we don't force the diaper issue... she seems happy to jump in the shower right away in the am. Personally, I think it's gross to sleep in pee...but she's more comfortable w/ that than pullups or dipes.

meemee · 08-23-2005, 02:51 PM

Wanted to add that genetics plays a roll..my DH and his sister had night wetting problems until they were 12 or so.

I was really shocked by that, but our dr said it has alot to do with nerves and how deep a child sleeps. I reaaaaaallllllly hope I'm not dealing w/ this still at 12!!!!!

mamaferreira · 08-23-2005, 02:52 PM

Joshua reverted back to night wetting last November and refused to wear Pull-Ups, so I just waited until he was asleep and then put the Pull-Up on him. He sometimes fussed about it in the morning, but I always explained that until he could be dry all night that this was what we were going to do. He finally stopped wetting about a month ago and I think we're both happy to be done with those!

You could also try a waterproof mattress pad over the sheet. They aren't really all that absorbant though.

nellebelle · 08-23-2005, 03:50 PM

We bought one of those plastic mattress jackets... the ones that go all the way around the mattress and zip. I think they are like 5 bucks at Walmart. I just keep a stack of sheets in his closet and a soap and water spray bottle with washclothes in the bathroom. So, when it happens, I just pull the sheet off, spray down the plastic mattress jacket, wipe it off, and throw a new sheet on.

Si is 7... he is sporadic about nighttime accidents in that he'll go a while without wetting, and then he'll do it for awhile no matter what we do. I do notice that it tends to happen during growth spurts,,, with him being 4 foot 5 inches at age 7, he has a lot of growth spurts, lol.

Nelle

Mama2miracles · 08-23-2005, 04:12 PM

yep - if you are a big kid - then you pull all the wet things off your OWN bed yourself, do the laundry and re-make your own bed yourself. If they aren't willing or able to do that - then they have to wear cloth diapers or pull-ups to bed. Actually for Maddy - cloth pull-up training pants is what she wears. My mom made them for her and I put a pull on cover over. For Michael and Melissa - I had Bummis waterproof training pants they wore to bed. I do put a plastic cover on the mattress under the sheet anyway though because some of mine have been known to wet the cloth training pants/diaper and then take it off in the night and then go back to sleep with NOTHING and wet the bed again.

tikva18 · 08-23-2005, 06:31 PM

This is what I did: plastic zippered encased thing for mattress, had the kids to go to bed without bottoms on, and had them sleep on folded towels. A couple of towels folded in half are a lot easier to wash than sheet sets and mattress pads. If my boys would have an accident (and they do still occasionally happen) then they are responsible for taking off the sheets.

jettrue · 08-23-2005, 06:59 PM

We've dealt with this too, I think it's definitely genetic. my oldest did it till 8, then it just stopped. My dd#2 does it now, she's 6... it would happen every night no matter what. We just use pull ups. I'm hoping she's done at 8 as well, but the ped said it's fairly common, especially among siblings. Thankfully my son at 4 hasn't had a problem since he was potty trained.

mama2boys · 08-23-2005, 07:30 PM

sorry but they 'refuse' to wear pull-ups?
if they are wetting the bed, they need to wear pull-ups.
give me a break.
Here is what we've done: if it is an occasional accident, or a sometimes light accident then i have used a bath towel folded in half, that has protected the sheets while my 6 year old was set on not wetting at night. He made sure he peed right before bed and didnt drink too much after dinner. he has done very very well, once *he* decided he could do it/was ready to do it. i did not ever *make* him, i did suggest he 'try' and see every once in a while and those were the nights we used the folded up towel. then if he did wet, he would wake up and we'd just change the towel.
Ultimately, if they are not ready and they are too old/big for diapers insist on either a pull-up or rubber pants. you have enough other things to do then wash bed linnens every day simply cause they are not yet ready to potty train at night.
hth